Look to the past by hiring asome emotional distance can be very constructive. When we look back
we combine all the points that previously seemed disconnected from each other and many
things we didn't understand suddenly make sense. However, this exercise
it can be a double-edged sword, especially when we repent, when
we believe we have made bad choices or that we should have made the
things differently. Then comes repentance, although perhaps the most interesting thing is that we often stumble several times
in the same stone so we always end up repenting of the same things.
We create a decision-making and behavioral model that leads us to always do the
same mistakes. The good news is that being aware of this will allow us
to take control of our lives.What do we usually regret? 1. Not having had the necessary courage. There is nothing worse than that
look back and think "if I had done ...". Remember
briefly all those things that you could have done, but never have
done. How do you feel now? What do you think would have happened if you had taken
a certain decision? Unfortunately, there is no going back in time and
change the past, but it is possible to change the present and your future as well
the next time you want to do something, don't hold back from doing it.
Take a risk, because only then will you know if it's worth it. Remember that you have
courage does not mean not being afraid, but it means advancing in spite of
fears.
2. We haven't tried hard enough. Sometimes, in the throes of a
demonstration of enthusiasm, we have the courage to undertake projects
that we are passionate about. However, there is a voice within us that tells us that
we will fail. So we surrender to the first obstacle. Everyone, when we look at each other
behind us, we remember a moment when we gave up. Either way, that
what would have happened if we kept trying and believed in our dream? Not it
we will never know, but the most important thing is to transform this
"Failure" in an experience. Next time you are for
give up on something you are passionate about ask yourself if you are motivated by
rationality or fear.
3. Not having been flexible. Familiarity and routine convey to us
security, we believe they protect us from problems. However, there are moments
in life where we have to leave our comfort zone to venture out
to explore other territories. Not having enough flexibility in front of the
change and not being open to new experiences will be one of the things of which,
sooner or later, you will regret it. So, start breaking the routine today
opening yourself to small proposals that represent a change in yours
way of seeing and living life.
4. For not having apologized. Many people find it difficult to apologize,
because they are ashamed or because they believe it involves diminishing oneself in the eyes of others.
However, when we make a mistake or cause harm to a person for us
important, there is nothing worse than not apologizing, especially if in
later, for some life circumstance, we will never have the opportunity again
to tell him how sorry we are. So we never put off apologies if we have
a fault, let's face it and make amends.
5. To have been too proud. When we have to make a decision
important, we are crossed by different emotions. We are almost always able
to detect anger or sadness, but pride and arrogance disguise themselves
and we don't notice it, even if they usually underlie some of the
most important decisions we have made in our life. Anyway,
behaving arrogantly means hiding behind a shield,
to think that only we are right, often going against our true desires.
There are times when to make a good decision we won't regret,
we must leave pride aside and let reason or heart speak.
6. We didn't stop in time. There are times when a
internal alarm that goes off to tell us that we must stop. However, a
Sometimes we don't pay attention to it by turning a deaf ear. When we
we persist in a project or in a couple relationship we develop an addiction
toxic that prevents us from taking advantage of other opportunities, it's like
condemn us to stagnation or voluntarily imprison us. So sometimes not
no matter how much time, money or effort you have invested in something, the more thing
smart to do is stop. Don't forget to keep going
advance, sometimes, you have to start from scratch.
7. To have been too distracted. Rejection, sadness and failure do
hurt, but the pain doesn't last a lifetime. There are times when it isn't
can continue the path you had taken and need to
stop and take care of yourself. If you don't, chances are a
day you wake up full of anger and resentment, without even giving up
I realize how you got to that point. The same goes for physical health.
Today is a good day to start changing bad habits as well
take care of yourself. Tomorrow, when you would like to do it, maybe not
you will have more time.
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