What is stopping you from making your dreams come true? Why do we always have plans, goals and goals to reach but they never materialize? Let's start by taking a look at the clock, what time is it? You will agree with me that the day has 24 hours, no more and no less, and as soon as we get up in the morning we have already consumed some.
An interesting report from the United States Bureau of Labor allows us to see how we normally spend our time, which is more or less like this: An average employee with children spends an average of 16 hours on the job, sleeping and doing household tasks. ; like paying bills, going shopping, cleaning or cooking.
Spend about 1,7 hours a day paying attention to others (partner and children) and about 2 hours watching TV shows that are usually real junk. The rest of the time is spent exercising, socializing and, some still watching TV, as the average per capita hours spent watching TV in the United States is 5 per day.
What does this mean? That you probably have dreams, but you don't know how to reach your goals because you waste a lot of your time on activities that have nothing to do with your goals. And the interesting point is, you don't even realize it. This is the trap.
For example, if you want to write a novel, and your dream is to become a writer… how many hours a day do you dedicate to this dream? Probably none, because your goals, goals and dreams (no matter what you call them) are far-fetched.
What is the solution?
Stop for a moment, immediately grab a pen and immediately write down what your dreams and goals are. For sure you will have more than one, well, then choose one of the simplest to make, write it down in black and white and commit to making it in the next 90 days.
Depending on the chosen goal, you will need more or less hours a day to reach it. So take the calendar, without excuses or pretexts, and mark each time the hours you dedicate to achieving this goal.
Let's continue with the example of writing. Obviously, you don't become a famous writer in the blink of an eye, but it is possible to realize an easily achievable goal: to write your first novel. Write it down, and record in your diary how many hours a day you dedicate to this dream.
Three tips that will help you achieve your goals:
- Be persevering. After recording everything in your daily schedule, you will surely be tempted to postpone this activity for a few days, perhaps because you think other things are more important or you are too tired. Perseverance is one of the fundamental characteristics of successful people, those who make their dreams come true. So, don't procrastinate, stick to the calendar you have organized yourself.
- Don't wait for the right time, it will never come. There are many people who are paralyzed throughout their lives simply because they are perpetually waiting for the right moment to pursue a certain passion; leaving that job they don't like or asking a person to go out with them ... But in reality waiting for the perfect moment to do something is simply a useless excuse, you probably don't act because you are afraid
or you don't feel safe enough.
- Set yourself realistic goals. The ability to set goals that can be achieved in the short term is essential to carry out a great project, because in this way it is possible to keep the whole process under control. If you set out to become a successful writer, this can materialize over time and only one step at a time. First you need to set yourself the goal of writing a novel, after finding a
agent or publisher willing to publish it, and then readers will decide if your work is to their taste.
PS 90 days is a reasonable time to reach a goal, especially if you break your goal down into smaller goals to accomplish from time to time. It is also enough time to create a new habit. But if you can't achieve your goal in this time frame, it doesn't matter, maybe the problem is just that you are used to dreaming too big.