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Last update: December 14, 2022
It's curious, but women only enjoy sex when their brains disconnect and the neurochemical and neurological constellations align in the direction of orgasm, fun and pleasure.
Let's say that when a woman becomes aroused, the cerebral impulses recur to the pleasure center and "launch" orgasm, always and when the amygdala, the structure responsible for brain fear and anxiety, is deactivated.
The pleasure of sexual exchange requires that, in a certain way, the amygdala disconnects from the worries and decisions that weigh on our mind, which could ruin the sexual act at the last minute.
Let yourself be carried away by impulses
The fact that a woman needs this "extra neuronal passage" explains why it takes longer to orgasm than a man. Knowing this, our sexual partners should be patient and slow so that everyone can fully enjoy the moment.
In fact, the clitoris has a single function: to give pleasure and make the woman enjoy. The stimulation of this alone activates the electrochemical activity and triggers a multitude of sensations.
Thus the climax is reached, favored by the action of dopamine, oxytocin and endorphins. However, if the stimulation is ineffective, the clitoris is insensitive or worries flood the path, the impulse may not reach the brain.
This explains why ecstasy is not possible if the woman is not relaxed, comfortable or satisfied. As they say, you have to keep your feet warm to enjoy sex.
The delicate psychological-physical interconnection
Curiously, the delicate psychological-emotional and physical interconnection in female pleasure is something that is confusing to science as well as to men.
However, with the advances in neuroscience, we have come to understand what happens to our brains when we are about to have an orgasm. Let's see what would happen if we subjected a woman, at the height of pleasure, to a functional magnetic resonance.
Let's imagine that the woman is in bed, and that her partner is stroking her. With kisses, caresses and hugs, some brain areas would decrease their activity, while those related to the genitals and breasts would light up.
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In men, orgasm is something much more physical, as it is the blood that has to flow to the penis to facilitate orgasm. Experts have tried unsuccessfully for an equally simple mechanism in women.
But the scientific results concerning the female sexual reaction are far behind those of the man. As a result, there is an almost total lack of knowledge of the anatomy of the clitoris and, nowadays, no one has been able to measure in depth the changes in our small organ when it is in the arousal phase.
The way of emotion
Brain differences regarding sex in women and men are transformed into emotions in the same way. It is scientifically proven that while women have 8 different channels for processing emotions, men only have one, which always leads to sex.
Men feel a certain "pressure" in the testicles when they do not ejaculate frequently. Women need to "ejaculate" only when they feel comfortable and safe.
For this reason, it is common that when a woman realizes that her partner has stopped having an emotional response, she ends up thinking that the same partner does not approve of her, that she has done something wrong or that she has stopped loving her.
Sexual exchange is a give and take. A woman needs to be in a comfortable situation, to feel relaxed and comfortable. At the very least she needs her brain to disconnect and her emotions don't stop her from fulfilling sexually.
This is the explanation of why a woman cannot be angry for enjoying sex. Namely, as sex therapists say, foreplay is everything that precedes 24 hours prior to sex.
To conclude, we need focus, comfort and disconnection, which is why holidays are usually a great aphrodisiac. As Isabel Allende would say, the G-spot is in the ears, whoever searches further down is wasting time.
Bibliographic sources consulted: "The female brain" by Louann Brizendinne and "Physiology of conduct" by Neil Carlson
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