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the information offered by the Institute of Family Policy, in 2010 in Spain
a wedding ended every 4 minutes (sometimes the statistics are a little bit
incredible but I'll try to trust the numbers). The vast majority of
couples go through periods of crisis during the relationship. This happens because
we all change with the passage of time; our needs change, the
motivations and even feelings. Ultimately, these changes cause
disagreements that did not exist before.
When
if you go through a crisis, anguish and confusion are generated. Thus arises one
question that constantly haunts us: is it a crisis or a rupture
definitive? Come in
in crisis, the feelings that are experienced are very intense and it is difficult
think with a clear mind. Determine if it is worth continuing or if yes
should the relationship end, it can be a difficult undertaking, especially because
we are afraid of choosing the wrong option. There is
those who argue that the relationship should end when the love is over.
However, it is certain that it is sometimes difficult to separate love from others
feelings such as affection, tenderness, friendship or compassion. Then it is
important to ask: does passion still exist? Is there sexual attraction? In
some cases still exist love and passion but the characteristics of the
relationship have taken on forms that cause harm to both of us. Of course
is that it is difficult to determine when to permanently end a relationship
of couple, but in a general sense, it can be said that we should think of one
breakup when the couple relationship no longer allows us to develop and to
grow as people, when both can no longer do it. When the
relationship produces harm more than satisfaction and well-being and, we know that not
there is a way to come to a win-win agreement that it can
change the state of things, then it's time to take courage and to
permanently break. A
mature relationship implies the growth of both, the two people complement each other and
they feed on each other, allowing personal growth (by supporting
or motivating the other). There are occasions when the relationship is not conducive
growth but actually limits the freedom and development possibilities of
people, at this point you need to stop and reconsider what the
next step. Self
you have chosen to endure the crisis then you will need a good dose of
introspection that will help you recognize mistakes and work for
delete them. Each of the couple members must do the same if they are to
the relationship continues. The responsibility for the crisis never belongs to a person
alone but of both, it is better then to discuss the matter, to determine the
responsibility and commit to change. Self
you have chosen the break you must know that it will not be easy. Sometimes, when the
relationship has been very troubled, you will experience a period of relief
initial, but almost always immediately afterwards the nostalgia, the sadness
and loneliness. However, these feelings are normal and are fading
over the time. Take some time to be alone and don't run
immediately to look for a new partner (especially if the reason that drives you is the
fear of loneliness, the saying: "one nail drives the other" is not the best
advice to follow). In the end,
whether you opt to continue the relationship or to break up permanently, the
Couples therapy can always prove helpful because it will help us cope
conflicts and to understand more clearly what happens in a relationship.
