Expressing appreciation - how and why it matters

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Joe Dispenza

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Expressing appreciation creates a truly powerful effect: a recent study on management showed that nearly half of employees who leave a company do so because they don't feel appreciated; 61% argue that the boss does not give them the right importance on a human level; and 88% say they do not receive recognition for their work.

In short, It's easy for people to complain about not getting positive feedback, while expressing appreciation is never a source of criticism. Who could complain about getting compliments or thanks?

Whether you are an entrepreneur, manager, employee, teacher, instructor, housewife or parent, if you want to be successful with others you have to express appreciation. And it's not even a burdensome thing: eexpressing appreciation costs nothing in terms of money. It just takes a few moments of time, respect and understanding.

Appreciation is a wonderful thing; make what is excellent in others also belong to us.


Express appreciation: There are 3 ways to do this

Appreciation can be expressed in 3 different ways: auditory, visual and kinesthetic. These are the 3 different ways we assimilate information, and each of us has a dominant type. Auditory people need to hear appreciation: Amano sallow yourself to say something nice. For them dialogue is important and they are sensitive to the tone of their voice. Even a simple phone call to thank them could make them happy. "Visual" people, on the other hand, need appreciations that they can see: they love letters, postcards, cards, flowers, plaques, certificates, photographs and even magnets to stick on the fridge. These people usually they surround themselves with memories to admire and they have desks, walls and bulletin boards full of objects that allow them to remind them that they are loved and appreciated. They adore things that are aesthetically beautiful, well done and in order, and take pleasure in looking at them. To express appreciation for them, therefore, a simple object, given with sincere affection, is enough. In the end, "kinesthetic" people must feel the appreciation: a hug, a handshake, a tap on the back, or you need to do something with them, like a massage, a walk, go out to eat or go on a trip. These people they love to feel good through experiences to live. In their choices, they rely heavily on tactile sensation: even when they buy a dress they give more importance to the sensation they feel in touching the fabric than to the appearance.

Now, if you want to become an "expert" in expressing appreciation, you need to know what kind of feedback has the best effect on the person you are offering it to. If you offer "visual" feedback to an "auditory" person, you are unable to express appreciation. Ask the other party to remember a time when they felt loved: this will help you understand what kind of feedback you like most. You can ask her to describe the experience and ask her a few questions like, “Was it something he said, something he did, the way he touched you? Was it the look in his eyes, the tone of his voice or the way he shook your hand? " Once you understand whether the person in front of you is "auditory", "visual" or "kinesthetic", then you can express appreciation by directing your feedback in a direction that is certainly effective. In the case of nYou can't get this kind of information, quite simply use all three types of feedback: for example, while giving someone a gift, you might pat them on the shoulder and say something kind. You could then express appreciation by using all kinds of feedback simultaneously!

Why is it so important to express appreciation?

If you were asked to say which are the 5 richest men on Earth, which are the last 5 Nobel Prizes for literature or the last 5 actors who have won the Oscar, would you be able to remember their names? I do not think so: none of us tend to remember people who have not affected our life. But what if they ask you to list the 5 most important people in your life, the 5 teachers who most influenced your training or 5 friends who helped you in times of difficulty, I'm sure you would remember. And do you know why? These are people who have made you or still make you feel appreciated. These are people who have left an indelible mark on your existence thanks to theirs ability to express appreciation.

Expressing appreciation is also important to your success: as I have already told you in a other article, people cannot improve their lives without first being grateful for what they have. When you express appreciation, you express your gratitude in a very powerful way and have a rewarding emotional experience. Your sincere appreciation attracts kindness and sympathy, and the fertile ground of abundance, both material and spiritual, is set up around you. Conversely, if you only expressed criticisms and complaints, it is likely that you would remove any opportunity for growth from your life.

Make an effort to express appreciation so that it becomes an unconscious habit. You may have now understood the power of gratitude, but you may forget to apply it in daily contact, as you are busy with other matters. Try to like at least 5 people a day: practice doing it deliberately; you will see that after a while (within a maximum of 6 months), it will become your habit. You can also keep track of daily appreciations simply by writing check marks on your diary or on a note.

Finally, in addition to express appreciation for others, remember to always appreciate yourself tooYour successes, the positive qualities you have and the special person you are need your attention. Never neglect yourself: you count!

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