Envy is a feeling that involves wanting what others have, whether in terms of material goods or in social, family or professional success. Basically, theenvy it is the desire for what the other has. The ultimate goal is always the same: to have more than
what you have, materially or socially.
Obviously, envy is bad, because it puts us in the position of always being dissatisfied. When we envy something or someone, we are also assuming that we don't own it (or at least not to the extent we would like to) and therefore feel miserable about it.
Envy also implies an attitude of anger that will gradually destroy us. In fact, people who envy are often enclosed in a circle of complete apathy. As if to say, envy does not even become a driving force and motivating force, the desired object does not translate into a goal to be achieved, but simply in an attitude of constant complaining about what one does not have.
Also, for people who constantly feel envious, time and the personality itself begin to deteriorate and become ambiguous, because they focus almost exclusively on what others have and do. These people cease to dream, to have their own goals to pursue and live only through others.
Of course, it goes without saying that we won't get a second chance to live our life. Therefore, the best alternative is to get rid of envy, overcome that feeling of being inferior and want everything that others have.
How do you overcome envy?
- Accepting that you feel envy. I know it may sound trivial, but the truth is that many people don't accept this sentiment. I have always felt that accepting the existence of a problem is the first step to solving it. Otherwise it just scratches the surface.
- If you look at the success of others, you also look at their failures. Often people who feel envious tend to focus exclusively on the successes of others, never looking at all the effort that the person has to make to achieve them and the failures that preceded them. Obviously, this is a very limited view of reality, such a limited perspective that it borders on unreality.
- Look for the negatives. Sometimes we let ourselves be dazzled by the success of others, but we have not noticed that there are too many negative aspects behind this. For example, did you know that most people who win millions in the lottery end up in extreme poverty very early on?
- Ask yourself if you really need it. There is a substantial difference between what we need and what we want, but we often forget it. There are things we wish we had but don't really need.
- Focus on you. Focus on developing your skills, this is the only sure way to success and happiness.