When we like someone, it is inevitable to be invaded by insecurity and to think about the best approach to interact. Here are some tips that might help.
Last update: December 19, 2022
It is common to behave differently when you want to attract the attention of the person you like and win them over. We tend to adapt to the tastes and personality of the same to fully satisfy her and show her that we are similar.
Nonetheless, on many occasions it fails miserably. It is at that moment that one wonders what could have gone wrong: not having been oneself!
If we try to act differently, not only will our conduct appear forced, but we will likely end up with a different result than expected. Or, the other person will gradually discover that we are actually quite different and they may be disappointed.
It is certainly possible to attract the attention of the person you like without having to put aside one's essence, the only really attractive element.
Tips to get the attention of the person you like
Be a little direct
We often think about the perfect strategy to approach the person, only to be unable to implement it in most cases. When we like someone, we usually tend to idealize, we see that person as unattainable and above all things.
As a result, we fear rejection, of not being at his height and even contempt. However, she is a person like any other and it won't take a special deployment of resources to get his attention.
The simplest strategy, therefore, will always be the most effective. Why not try a simple "Hi, how are you?". Being direct and natural is the quickest and most appropriate way to overcome the difficult moment of the first approach.
Daring and verifying that the other person will respond in the same way will improve our confidence for future occasions and, above all, reduce fear.
Stand out from others
After the introduction and having broken the ice a bit following the first contact, the hardest part comes. It is time to go to the bottom, to attract the attention of the person you like, but above all to keep it high.
It is possible to achieve this establishing a fun or original conversation. In addition to this, you have to listen and comment on what the other person said; this denotes interest and everyone likes to be heard!
If this step is completed successfully, you are already halfway there, as the other person will feel comfortable and want to talk. On this basis, common ground must be sought, topics that interest both.
It is also good to emphasize the importance of body language in our encounters with the person we like. In these cases, the ideal is to be confident, even if we are a bundle of nerves. To convey security, you have to adopt an upright posture, make eye contact and smile in a relaxed way.
Likewise, it is essential to avoid crossing your arms, looking at the floor or playing with your hands; these behaviors will make you appear nervous.
"The most enjoyable conversation is one in which nothing is remembered precisely, but leaves a pleasant overall impression."
-Ben Jonson-
Don't be nagging
When we are attracted to a person we want to talk to her constantly, so we either look for the slightest excuse to do so or respond right away to messages and calls. This is completely normal.
However, if this is not reciprocal, the other party may tire of us and feel suffocated. Because of this it is important to make yourself interesting in his eyes.
By not making us feel all the time, the other person will miss us and will more want to contact us. It also allows you to check if the interest is mutual. If he doesn't look for us, maybe we should let it go.
In short, being yourself is the best strategy to get attention
Despite these suggestions, the best trick is to act spontaneously and naturally. This will make it much easier to make yourself known, and perhaps over time you will get more of a friendship.
It is better to show yourself as you are, so that others can get to know us completely. This does not mean that at the beginning we should not resort to some "tricks", but it is better to avoid any mask that can hide the true personality. By doing so, the relationship will be built on a solid foundation.
