Last update: February 18, 2022
Our life is full of problems and conflicts that surprise us and from which we can sometimes come out victorious and sometimes not.
This situation leads us, on more than one occasion, to ignore the problem or conflict as if it did not exist. This, however, does not mean that the problem disappears out of the blue, quite the opposite. It certainly does not make the anger it unleash in us or in others disappear.
Today we will discover what resources we have available to resolve problems and conflicts that, on many occasions, paralyze us and prevent us from moving forward.
1. The problem is there, don't ignore it!
As we have said, we often ignore the problems that crowd our lives with the hope that sooner or later they will disappear.
Ignoring a problem can make it really disappear, but it will recur in the future or it will make you live in a continuous state of problems and conflicts..
Neither of the three solutions is the right one. We must face the problem and try to find a solution as soon as possible. The proverb that says "eye does not see, heart does not hurt" is of no help in this case.
2. Change old ideas to new ones
Most conflicts and problems depend on old ideas in your head, which do nothing but prevent new ones from making their way into your life..
The more time you keep a fixed idea in mind, without ever doubting it, the more problems you will have and the more conflicts you will have to face. But why does this happen?
Being sure of your ideas, not deleting them or changing them with new ideas, only confirms their veracity even if in reality they are nonsense. This will inevitably lead you to suffer because you will not move from your beliefs which are actually wrong.
3. Visualize your future
You must be aware that your present depends on your vision of the future. If you visualize a negative future, your present will be anything but positive.
What do you have to do? Think positively, visualize a problem-free situation, and strive to find a solution. You don't have to look back, you just have to look forward.
Don't allow your problems to direct your life and determine whether it will be good or bad. You have the power to visualize a healing, to deal with conflicts and to find a solution.
4. Stop mistreating yourself!
We cannot deny that the problems and conflicts between people are often violent, in every sense. But what happens with inner violence?
Not only is the situation violent, not only are there misunderstandings and anger, you yourself exert violence towards yourself by repressing your emotions, such as anger, anger or not avoiding saying certain things for fear of being unpleasant..
Your inner violence will not help in resolving your conflicts. Sooner or later all this pent-up anger and anxiety to please others will come out one way or another, generating more conflicts.
This doesn't mean that you have to start screaming or showing your anger when you feel it, but you have to stop trying to please everyone and finally be yourself.
5. Compliment others and yourself whenever you can
Many conflicts get really tough and require a lot of effort because they involve people we care about.
If this is your case, the solution is very simple. You know that everyone makes mistakes and addressing people a few sincere and comforting words such as "I know you worked so hard", "you did it on your own" can be a solution to any problems.
These words, however, you must also repeat to yourselves. Don't expect others to tell you, do it yourself! Be aware of your efforts and your work. Complimenting yourself will help you to be more aware of the work of others, of their commitment.
A condition of conflict and problems is as bad for you as it is for others. Relationships would be compromised, anger would take over your life and your health could also be affected.. Never ignore conflicts, face them face to face.
