Running after people who ignore us poisons us. Those who love us will look for us; who does not love us should not be by our side.
Written and verified by the psychologist GetPersonalGrowth.
Last update: December 17, 2022
We shouldn't walk behind someone who sees us coming and dodges us. We must not be left behind when others already know where we are, know our intention to walk their path and leave no room for us. No. We have to give ourselves a chance and keep in mind the following sentence: whoever loves us will look for us.
Affection is not pleaded and disinterest must not be the cause of suffering. It is time to re-emerge, love each other and work on their dignity.
Affection does not speak the same language as selfishness and indifference. He is sincere, neutral, cordial, mutual; You know the interest only when you seek the common benefit, when you try to water your tree and grow.
Today I set you free. I forget my fears. I'm starting to like myself. Today I go on. Today I stop waiting for you ... Because from today those who love me will have to look for me, because I no longer intend to crawl.
Betraying self-esteem and emotional well-being
Begging for crumbs of care and affection leaves an indelible mark on our self-esteem and emotional well-being. Being ignored makes us feel small, insignificant and vulnerable.
Add to this the helplessness, frustration and anger at not having obtained the relationship we would like to have with the person who ignores our presence and diminishes our interest.
Our self-concept is totally undermined when this happens. Feeling this way makes us unable to maintain a correct attitude towards ourselves.
Restoring what time and the indifference of others have undermined is no easy feat. Putting our pieces together takes pride, courage and a certain healthy selfishness which is nothing more than starting to take care of ourselves above all else.
“I've met someone. It's me. I'll give myself a chance. "
-Elvira Tailor-
Don't look, let them find you
Let's start looking for us and let us be found. Running after people who ignore us poisons us. Those who love us will look for us; those who don't love us simply shouldn't be by our side.
Do you know about starting to fly? Well, now is the time to put it into practice, spread your wings and take off again. So take back the reins of your life and surround yourself with people who don't like pleas, who don't choke, and who don't feed on selfishness.
The claims of the selfish heart mark our path. We must try to get rid of the stones that have entered our shoes as soon as possible.
We cannot (and must not) escape the damage already done and the suffering it has caused us to realize that someone did not want us in their life.
Protect self-esteem: those who love us will look for us
To restore our self-esteem and the correct perception of our worth and our individuality, we must take care of ourselves and take the reins of our life.
Letting go of what doesn't make us feel good always brings new and good winds into our life. Little by little we will rediscover that we only need ourselves to live, that we are the only essential people in our life and that we deserve to have only those who appreciate our company next to us.
If someone does not dedicate a minute of their life to us and yet has a thousand demands, it is time to take their leave. It is time to assert yourself.
