Exercises on self-esteem to have self-esteem.
Those who value themselves are safe from others; he wears a breastplate that no one can penetrate.Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Self-esteem is one of our most important internal resources and very deeply determines the quality of our life.
If we do not consider ourselves capable of doing something, we will have built the first mental block that will put a spoke in the wheel.
The exercises that we will see go to work on the esteem we have of ourselves by removing that mental block.
But before we see the 5 exercises on self-esteem it is essential to understand something more.
Before moving on to the exercises, let me tell you that they will not be the usual things that are read around.
I have decided to share with you some of the best exercises on self-esteem and leave the usual nonsense that are found on the net.
But why are self-esteem exercises, especially writing exercises, so effective compared to watching a video?
Writing has an overwhelming strength to work on ourselves and allows us to go much deeper than just listening to or just watching a video.
So take your time and get some paper and pen.
If self-esteem is a problem that you have been carrying around for some time, I always recommend that you dedicate a notebook dedicated to work on yourself.
Now let's see the 5 exercises for self-esteem.
The first self-esteem exercise involves involving other people.
If you have already tried to improve your self-esteem without success, outside help for recalibrate your ego it could make a difference.
Contact 5 people of your choice, perhaps even by message, and ask them to answer these simple questions (you can copy and paste).
- When you met me, what were the first things you thought about me?
- What do you think are my best features?
- Is there a quality that you envy me and that you would like to have too?
- How do you see me when I relate to other people?
This simple exercise, which other people will actually do for you, is very helpful for identify any roles you cover and the related masks.
When you have received a response from everyone, analyze the responses and see if, and how much, your view of yourself is misaligned.
If you notice any recurring responses, different from what you think about yourself, you probably need to work on your ego.
This exercise is one of my favorites and will allow you to re-evaluate many experiences from your past.
Get a pen and paper e write an event from your past that you remember with some anxiety or pain for every 5 years of your life.
Make a note of when you were 5, when you were 10, when you were 15, when you were 20 and so on, obviously stopping at your age.
It is not important to follow the ladder pedestrianized, even if you have to move 3 or 4 years, that's okay.
The important is identify at least one memory for each age group.
Once you have created this memory puzzle, analyze each memory by writing down the emotions you felt during the event.
Then, think about those emotions by reflecting on their nature and the nature of the people involved.
For example, if when you were 15 you made a bad impression at school, in front of your class, reevaluate the people involved and how they behaved.
You may find that the event was not that relevant and that reviewed today, with awareness, it could be easy to overcome the negative influences it carries with it.
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If you have already read my other articles on self-esteem you will already know that the personal diary is a very precious tool to work on yourself.
What I propose to you in this exercise, however, is different.
seven days consecutive, make it a habit to write down each night, with pen and paper, one thing you forgive yourself for, a resolution to act differently, and something you are grateful for.
In fact, when our self-esteem is not optimal, we criticize ourselves too much and our internal dialogue is very bad.
An example of the exercise could be.
- [FORGIVEN] I forgive myself for not talking to that girl in a casual way.
- [ABOUT] Next time I'll be more relaxed in the conversation.
- [GRATITUDE] I am grateful for having had the opportunity to see her.
Exercise is most effective if continued for at least 30 daysbut making commitments that are too long can be daunting.
But I am convinced that at the end of the week, benefiting from the rereading, you will certainly be encouraged to continue.
This self-esteem exercise might be a little annoying, however it is certainly one of the most effective.
Get a pen and paper e make a list of 10 No's that you have taken in your life.
For example, the outspoken rejection in front of everyone from the person you liked or the denied salary increase from your boss.
Once this is done, strive to find a lesson from these No's that you have received, wondering what you would do differently now.
Turn those No's into wisdom and lessons to learn from as you grow.
This self-esteem exercise will take you another step into the past.
Grab a pen and paper and write down all the things you didn't have exactly 10 years ago.
Write down everything that comes to your mind that encompasses every area of your life, from work to relationships.
The list could include a particular friendship, relationship, job, object, mindset, habit, sport, home, place, or experience.
Try to range in every area of your life and write down everything you now have but did not have 10 years ago.
This exercise is to raise awareness of your goals, so as to help you focus on your successes rather than your failures.
In fact, when we suffer from low self-esteem, we have a strong tendency to see only what we do not have, leaving the beautiful things we possess under the radar.