Written and verified by the psychologist GetPersonalGrowth.
Last update: December 14, 2021
There are still people who are honest, responsible, sincere, kind, capable, loving, sensitive and respectful. There are still people who turn away from bitterness, selfishness, hypocrisy and pride.
They are people who console, who make us believe that humanity is not lost, which help us to recover faith in the possibility of saving a world corrupted by interest, lies and falsehood.
They have a good-natured, attentive and humble aspect, but they are not aware of it. They are not aware that they represent everything that makes us smile, they are not aware of how important they can become even with the most insignificant details.
What we learn from good people
Good people not only offer us smiles, comfort and happiness, but also good memories that turn into life lessons through our emotions.
By crossing with them, we learn that Good deeds are worth more than intentions and that what we offer to others is always returned to us multiplied. We also learn that the best reward is the one within us.
Life is not stability, but knowing how to go with balance, and in order to succeed, we need to be comfortable with ourselves. For this to happen, the only option is to reject bad intentions and learn from negative emotions.
Educating to emotions, educating to goodness
Not always having good intentions and good feelings does not turn us into bad people, but into normal people. In this sense there is a lot of confusion, since we usually label or give value to the totality of a person starting from isolated facts.
For example, feeling jealous, anger, anger, or envy is quite natural and we shouldn't be worried about it. What we need to pay particular attention to is not acting in accordance with these feelings, these emotions.
We must try not to explode like a volcano, nor let certain circumstances dominate us. Of course we will feel envious when someone has something we yearn for or, for example, when we see others advance in life while we feel stagnant.
In no case does this take away from us the merit of enjoying positive titles. With the simple fact of being aware of not being able to escape neither from emotions nor from negative feelings, we can be able to go a step further in recognizing our emotional intelligence.
Tips for overcoming destructive emotions
In general we say that the right, true, loyal, honest, prudent and respectful people are emotionally intelligent. What is certain is that these aspects usually define balanced people.
As we already know, very few people manage to make them disappear and, when they do, never in their totality (because it goes against our emotional nature). To overcome them, we have to work on some aspects; let's see them:
1- We must understand them
As already commented, we need to get rid of the idea that our emotions are intolerable and take a step forward when it comes to consolidating these new beliefs. When these emotions that we consider destructive appear, think about them and what generated them.
2-Get rid of fear
Being emotional isn't bad, is it? Starting from this same reasoning, therefore, we can say that it is not even to feel envy or anger at a given moment. Ultimately, the statement is the same, only speaking of envy, we are more specific and more concrete.
We probably find it more tolerable to think about how naturally a child gets angry or jealous. We know we shouldn't blame him for it, but help him understand how he feels.
Why don't we do the same with us? It is exactly the same. Understanding this and internalizing it will help us not to be afraid of our nature and our emotions.
3- We must deprive ourselves of labels
As a general rule, the human being tends to formulate internal, stable and global attributions of the behaviors of others considered negative. Even if we are more kind to ourselves, we end up fearing that, in the name of the same rule, others will do the same towards us.
We are generally not aware that this only happens in our mind.
4- Cultivate emotional balance
Although we might consider destructive emotions as those that are harmful to us and to others, in reality they turn into destructive when they disturb our mental balance.
The problem is not so much feeling anger as letting it continue over time and destroy us. Though it is not easy to load every emotion with good feelings, it is the path we must take to reach the much desired and admired serenity of mind.
