Last update: Augusts 18, 2015
To grow up and becoming an adult is not just about accumulating years or see wrinkles appear on the face, day after day. Growing up means knowing how to mature over time, preserving the positive things of each lived stage and each phase of our existence.
Unfortunately, it is not always easy to mature in harmony and happiness. There are times when our "adult self" feels frustrated, overwhelmed by unresolved problems, i which transform us into taciturn people, devoid of hope and love for things, for those around us and for ourselves.
Surely many will laugh to hear about "inner child", Not understanding what it is: often, childhood is associated with a period of blind innocence, in which it is not yet understood how the world and life work. For this, children are granted a certain degree of innocent madness and spontaneity: because they still don't know how things are going.
However, most likely, they know a lot more than we do and believe in values ​​that we have lost. We all continue to live with our very well hidden inner child, and it is thanks to him that there is a balance between our rational part and the freer, pure and hopeful one, which continues to ask for love.
The voice of our inner child
Believe it or not, the child within you has not left to make room for the serious adult you are now. He is still there, hidden and repressed most of the time, because you don't want to let out what he represents.
The inner child, in fact, makes you reflect on things that you do not always want to hear:
- He asks you not to give too much importance to material things, to relativize the problems, to get rid of that aura of sadness, to cheer up your face and to go out for a walk with freedom.
- He asks you to be loved and cared for. He asks you for love for him and for others. He wants to be hugged, pampered, looked after and be at the center of your life. Does that tell you something? It's about self-esteem.
- Sometimes he asks you not to be too demanding of yourself, to relax and focus on the simple things around you, to appreciate the frugality and the little joys, he wants you to play with him and experience new things. He asks you, above all, to do not lose the joy of living and love for yourself. He wants you to be spontaneous and to be daring.
However, there is a very important aspect that cannot be overlooked: it is possible that your childhood was not very happy, that within you there are wounds, emptiness and complaints and that, in reality, you will never be able to truly be children.
It may happen that circumstances force you to grow up suddenly, preventing you from enjoying at best those aspects that all children need: love, recognition, affection, support, etc.
These situations make you grow up disheartened, filled with insecurities and fears, transmitted by the child you have never been, by that wound that still lives within you. Do you want to know what to do in this case? We explain it to you below.
Find ourselves and take care of our inner child
It is said that he who lives on art, creation, who knows how to live with little and who knows how to give smiles for no reason, has never broken the bond with his inner child. It may be that, at times, he is pointed out as crazy, due to his spontaneity and eccentricity.
It may seem strange to you, but keeping the umbilical cord connected to that inner child, healthy and happy, can be a very enriching experience, capable of healing many emotional wounds and fortifying self-esteem.
How can you reunite with your inner child and take care of him? Take note:
- Visualize yourself as a child, also look for a photograph if you need it. It is a simple exercise through which to reflect, an act of introspection with which to arrive at the essence of yesterday that contains the child you have been.
- Think of an image, recall a time when you were 7 or 8 years old. What do you see? A cheerful child, a little confused and outspoken? Do you see a happy child hugging his parents? Try to absorb that love and ask yourself if you are still the same person. Do you see a pain from the past, a wound still fresh? Accept it and forgive, you will feel freer. You need to calm this memory and create a balance where there is no resentment and where you can live in peace.
- Continue with the personal visualization and establish a dialogue with that child, with your "childish self". You have to establish a strong union with him; ask him what he needs to be happy and wait for his words and requests from him.
You have to convince him that, from now on, you will take care of him, you will love him, you will advance together with new hopes, relativizing problems, laughing, being purer and not repressing his basic needs.
Take him tightly by the hand and never lose him again.
