4 sticks that you have in the wheels that ruin your life 🆙

4 sticks that you have in your wheels and that prevent you from moving forward.

The real home of man is not a house, it is the road. Life itself is a journey to be made on foot.

Bruce Chatwin

When you are unable to proceed on your own path, it is customary to say that we have a spanner in the works, an impediment that slows us down or, worse, blocks us.

Spanners are therefore mental and physical brakes that do not allow us to proceed on our path.

If you feel you have some impediment that slows you down or stops you, maybe you have a spanner in the works: identifying it is the first step to get rid of it and move on with your life.

Today we see which are the 4 spanners that prevent you from proceeding in the realization of your goal or yours personal happiness.

4 Sticks you have in the wheels

# 1 Poor friendships

Your circles of knowledge can be a stepping stone to success (and no, I'm not talking about the classic kick in the ass) or a spanner in the works that prevents you from proceeding towards your goal or towards your own. personal fulfillment.

Cultivating and expanding your friendships is very important, we are continually influenced by the people around us, especially the closest people such as family and friends.

If the former cannot be chosen, the latter can, and so it is good select them with great care.

If you approach people who complain, who do not achieve the results they would like and who tend to procrastinate, you too will subconsciously tend to align with their personality, all the things they have a hard time doing will become difficult for you too.

To overcome this problem, the only way, even if it might seem a little unpleasant, is to spend less time with these types of people and prefer individuals with a propensity for action and a general positivity.

2 Serial Procrastination

If you've ever read other Personal Growth Lovers articles, you know how procrastination is the biggest spanner in the works.

You will also have the most brilliant ideas in the world, all the possibilities and knowledge to develop them, but if always refer to tomorrow it will be like having nothing in your hand.

If you often think that when you have the time you will do, when you have achieved that result you will be, that you will celebrate only when a certain event occurs, stai procrastinando.

To eliminate this stick that you have in the wheels you have to start with a small step.

As the science of kaizen teaches, the baby steps strategy is best for moving forward.

So take a pen and segment your goal, your dream, your project, in small steps and now do the first, now take that first action that concretely will bring your dream closer.

For example, if you want to write your own book, finish reading this article and start right away.

Grab a pen and paper, or open your writing program and write the first chapter, the introduction or the first paragraphs, start right away to get closer to the realization of your project.

# 3 You think you don't deserve happiness

Happiness is a never ending quest for many people and it seems to continually shift as if it were the horizon that we cannot reach.

Whenever we set a goal that we think will make us happy we postpone happiness and even once reached, we immediately think about the next goal without enjoying the actual well-being that we have already earned.

Perhaps an even worse situation is thinking that we don't deserve happiness for a reason that seems more than justified in our heads.

If you believe you do not deserve happiness it is your belief and not a real fact, you will make it real by believing it and making it with your mind.

Establishing that you do not deserve happiness is a mistake, how can you define by yourself that you do not deserve happiness?

If you are dissatisfied with something, change that thing, if you don't like living with this thought, change it, if it is a person who makes you think it, move away from this person.

You have the power to decide, you just have to start to make decisions for your life.

# 4 You don't know what you want out of life

Have you ever wondered what you want from life?

Barring childhood dreams, have you ever tried to spend some time to seriously think about what would you like to do or what would you like to achieve?

For sure you know that you don't want to suffer and experience negative feelings, but do you have a precise idea of what you would like?

Not having a specific purpose, a goal or an awareness of what you want from life is a limit that prevents you from moving forward, a real spanner in the works, it means not being able draw a path not even a summary to follow.

And I'm not talking about not living in the moment or not letting your creativity run free, I'm talking about having an ideal, a reason, a purpose or a goal to achieve.

If you have no idea, start at think seriously about your future, it will definitely be worth it.

But you don't have to do it because you read it on a personal growth blog, you have to do it for yourself.

If you don't try to figure out what you want from life and how to develop your dream, you will end up in someone else's plan.