Last update: May 29, 2016
We cry out to the four winds to want honesty and sincerity above all else. We demand it of the people around us and feel confidence when we know we are receiving the truth about any issue, even the most trivial. Lying to ourselves is useless.
Sometimes it happens that we lack sincerity towards ourselves or at least that is what we believe at first. In other words, what you are trying to explain is that considering oneself to be true to oneself when in reality it is not, is much more difficult to accept than someone else's lie.
Lying to yourself because you think it's easier
We always believe that people lie out of cowardice, as we all know that being honest is much more complicated. We also know that when deciding something, many factors come into play that, lying, can get confused.
However, even if it cannot be generalized, experience teaches us that lying to others may perhaps be a cowardly act, but lying to oneself is a behavior that expels fear from every pore of our skin.
Anyone who lies to himself many times may have a problem of another kind while those who do so at specific moments are probably concealing a truth they fear, and does not know or does not want to know. In such situations, we lie to ourselves because we think it is easier to move on.
The truth is of the heart and is incontrovertible
This is a mistake: in this way, we cannot continue because, in any case, the falsehoods lead to dead ends, to disappointments, sufferings and breakups with ourselves or with others.
From our mind we could hide what we want, and it would go on like this, autonomously; however, we could never fully move forward. We cannot deceive our heart: it cannot continue if we do not listen to it. We cannot contradict him and, by lying to ourselves, we deny the truth of him.
"I like people who understand that the greatest mistake of human beings is to try to free the mind from what does not come out of the heart."
-Mario Benedetti-
When it comes to ourselves, we realize that, in the struggle between heart and reason, the heart always wins: it makes us understand that we weren't sincere when we should have been. Maybe we realize it late, since it happens when we feel lost; but doing so allows us to start being happy.
Look at each other and face the truth
To succeed in this, you need to have the courage to look inside yourself, defeat all your monsters and face what you don't want to say openly. Stop lying to yourself when you delude yourself, stop lying to yourself when you fall in love, but you don't want to, when you think you have overcome something when in reality it is not ...
“You deserve the best, because you are one of those people who, in this miserable world, continue to be honest with themselves. This is the only thing that really matters. "
-Frida Kahlo-
In this way, you will grow and learn something to apply and advise with whenever you get the chance. In this world so full of nostalgia and increasingly cold, aiming for one's happiness becomes a moral requirement.
You must allow yourself to be happy whenever you can, as there are always good reasons not to be. If you have doubts about what gives you well-being, always remember that if it does not harm anyone, you can never deny it.
You have to give yourself this opportunity whenever you get the chance: lying to you is always a choice that leads to nothing but revealing a truth to you. Falsehoods, therefore, cost dearly.
