Last update: June 26, 2015
For some people, the signs of serious problems in their relationship go unnoticed. On the surface, everything is fine, but suddenly our partner decides to break up with us, for no reason. Can't you understand why you got to this point? Everything seemed to be roses and flowers and it seemed to you that you only had a few very small discussions of little importance every now and then?
While it may be that your partner has an unpredictable nature, it is almost always possible to be able to catch the signs that make us understand that there are problems in the couple. Understanding it in time will help you strengthen it and keep it in good condition.
Respect: the magic word
You may not have noticed it, or you have not given it the right importance, but every time you make strange gestures or faces when your partner points out things you do not like, you are disrespecting him / her. Try to think about how you would feel if you were in his place.
Raising your voice for no reason can be offensive and hurt the other. It is almost equivalent to insulting, cursing or cursing the other. Likewise, it is disrespectful not to pay attention when your partner is trying to bring up a certain topic with you.
Persevering with this attitude can be a big mistake, and you need to pay attention to these aspects if you want to maintain a stable relationship.
Make positive experiences more important than negative ones
All kinds of experiences are lived in all relationships. However, when it comes time to create memories, It is always good to give more importance to the good times, rather than the bad ones. It may sound strange, but negative memories tend to linger longer in memory, so we must try to remember others as well.
According to some research, to be able to eliminate bad memories, it is necessary to have at least 5 good ones for each bad experience. Try it: be honest with yourself and make an effort to save your relationship. You will see that it will be repaid to you.
Distraction or nastiness?
You have to bear in mind that not all of your partner's mistakes are intentional. You too will have sometimes forgotten to do something they asked you to do. But you didn't do it on purpose, you just forgot about it.
However, when it happens to others, you respond by berating them, sparking an argument, or taking revenge. And all for a little distraction that should never have had such dire consequences in the relationship. Has this ever happened to you? How about forgiving your partner even if he's not perfect?
Is it worth preventing a breakup or not?
If your partner wants to discuss something with you, the best option is to listen to them and try to find a solution together. This is not about starting a "you speak and then I speak", because that way you will never get to the heart of the matter. And it's not even about keeping quiet and just listening to your partner's complaints, or just being the one complaining without caring about the other person's opinion. I misunderstandings are among the main causes of breakups: the best choice is always to be clear about what you think and feel, and not make hasty conclusions from what you feel or see your partner doing.
Evaluating if your relationship is working is important before it's too late. To keep the flame of love alive, there is a need for the cooperation of both sides, who must act together.
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