Pretending that someone you once loved no longer exists is painfully difficult. But if you want to forget a person forever, this is what you should do.
We all have a person... or two... that we want to erase from our memory. Whether it's an old friend who has turned his back on us, an ex, or someone important who has drifted away from us, sooner or later we all want to try to forget a person.
If you spend your sleepless nights thinking about that person who hurt you deeply and that you never wished you had met, then you can stop worrying, because soon you will be able to sleep peacefully.
You may believe that you are the only one who spends days, months, even years thinking about someone who broke your heart, but you are sure that you are not alone. I could write a book about it. It took me a year to get over the breakup with my boyfriend. Needless to say, the bitch no longer wanted me as her girlfriend. He's not a jerk, I mean I can't make anyone love me.
No, I'm kidding, he's a jerk.
At first, I got it all wrong: I was sitting at home watching melancholy movies with a tub of ice cream. Not only did I get depressed, but I also gained weight. Do I still look bitter? Let's not stop at this, it's not about me, it's about you.
Through these harrowing experiences of mine, I have gathered some wisdom on how to get over someone you love. So, watch out, because, even if it takes a while, you will go through this phase with your head held high.
How to forget a person and move on forever
Here are some helpful tips to clear your mind and forget about someone.
#1 Accept what happened. Don't be one of those people who can't accept the fact that it didn't work. What I'm trying to say is: don't be like me. You will be able to get over someone much more easily if you just accept what happened.
#2 Forget it. You should listen to the Disney song, Let It Go. These Disney songs are getting truer. Just forget it. It is the only way to free the mind and heart. If you accept what happened, then the next step is to understand it and then promise yourself that you will move on.
# 3 Sal. Don't do what I did and start eating ice cream from the couch. I actually enjoyed it, however after cleaning two tubs it was time to re-evaluate my life. Put on your shoes and go for a walk. Go to the market. Go to the bar. Go to your friends. Yes your heart is broken but you're still breathing, don't let anyone take your time.
#4 Don't dwell on the past. Do not even dare to say: "What if...". It's not enough. Do not look back. If you had done this or that, nothing would have changed. Thinking, "What if I try harder?" it will only aggravate your psychological condition. Sure, you could have done this or that, you could have done a hundred different things, but you didn't.
And in all honesty, even if it did, would that change anything? You will never know. So forget it. It occurred. It's over. Now go ahead.
#5 Work on yourself. If you're feeling down, there's no point in sulking. To forget someone, it is best to focus on oneself. This is a great opportunity to look inward and develop. Sign up for a pottery class, play a sport, do something that makes you feel good about yourself.
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It is really easy to sit and rest on the sofa, but then you will regret it, believe me. If you're not motivated to work on yourself, think about it another way: What if you meet that person in a couple of months? The best revenge is to be more beautiful and successful now than when you were with him/her.
#6 Avoid things that remind you of that person. Stay away from them. I know, you want to follow them and see if they're suffering like you, but that's not a good idea. You have to cleanse yourself of this person: body, mind and soul.
If you have the same friends, maybe even taking time away from them will help you get over them. Basically, anything that reminds you of that person, you have to avoid it. This will take a lot of inner strength, but you can do it.
#7 Change your lifestyle. If your life has evolved around this person, the best way to get over it is to change your lifestyle. This can be done by working on yourself, however you can also try looking for a new job or changing cities. Making these kinds of changes will focus your attention on something else. This will not guarantee that you will completely forget about him or her, but it will help you and force you to do new things without that person.
#8 Meet new people. You will have to. Having the same friends as the person you are trying to forget is brutal. When I tried to move on, our friends kept bringing her name up in the conversation or asking how I was doing. Even if your friends try to support you, you don't need a constant reminder. Having friends who don't know the person who broke your heart can be a blessing, because they don't bombard you with questions or nervously tell you that the person is dating someone else.
#9 Don't talk to that person. Don't do this, please don't do this. This is nothing but trouble. Don't text him, don't call him, don't try to cross him, don't send him a message on Facebook, Instagram or Whatsapp, don't send him a letter. Literally don't contact him. How can you forget someone if you keep talking to him?
#10 Don't try to get this person out of your mind. If you try to stop thinking about this person, it won't work. In fact, it will make you think about her a lot more. So don't sit on the couch thinking, "I have to stop thinking about that." You will end up thinking about that person even more instead of forgetting them. Strange mind, right?
#11 Blocked and deleted. Delete that person from everything: from Facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp, Snapchat. Everywhere. Otherwise, you will end up cyber stalking her to death, believe me. The only way to avoid this is to completely remove it from your life. It will be hard to do that, but after a month or two, you will stop going to their Instagram profile; You probably won't believe me yet, but you will, trust me.
#12 Write what you feel. You need to express your feelings - this is the only way to process what happened and achieve clarity and inner peace. I wrote the whole story four times and how I felt. Yes Four. I know. Excessive. But I had a lot of emotions to process and, most likely, you do too.
So, grab a journal, a pen, and start writing. Even if her first sentence is "I don't know what to write," she writes it herself. Sooner or later you will start to gain momentum and those feelings will start to pour onto the page, out of your mind.
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#13 Set goals. Orient yourself with goals. Start with small goals. For example, I set out to walk XNUMX minutes a day. Your goal doesn't have to be big or very significant. It can be simple as long as it helps you get through this stage. Remember, this is a phase. You will get over it. So set goals.
#14 Travel. Go out and see the world. There is no point in her hanging around the house, waiting for something to change. Get a train ticket, a plane ticket or a bus ticket; no matter how you travel, as long as you take the time to see the world you live in. Trust me, once you see what the world contains, you'll wonder why you're wasting your time thinking about that person.
#15 Give yourself time. Yes, I know it's a cliché, but time really does heal all wounds. It may take days, months or years, but life goes on and eventually that person will slowly and unconsciously leave your mind. When I see that guy who broke my heart now, I just think that he should shave off that disgusting beard of his. You see, time is truly the best remedy for forgetting someone.
It's never easy to forget someone you once cared deeply about, especially when they gave you so much to remember. But with a little effort and these rules, someday in the not too distant future, you'll look back and see how easy it was.
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