Last update: June 09, 2015
Growing up is said to mean learn to say goodbye.
Not a goodbye, a who knows, a maybe. It is a greeting with no return, without being able to retrace one's steps. It is a sound goodbye and point at the end. And it is difficult to put this point at the end, given how easy it is to put ellipses ...
Leave things on standby, just in case, rather than say goodbye. Reaching the point of no return anguishes us, puts us in front of a horizon of possibilities in which what we are saying goodbye to will no longer exist. A farewell of those that echo in the soul. They are the ones that hurt.
There are those who never had the courage to say goodbye, and it is not leave a window open to pain, to disillusionment and disappointment. Hope is the last to die, but if the cause is lost it's best to let it go, breathe deeply and get rid of it.
Say goodbye to those who have broken our hearts, to those who have torn our souls, to those who say goodbye because it is better to feel pain than to feel nothing. IS that chill in the chest that terrifies us. It undresses us. He throws us to the ground.
And you choose the incandescence of pain, anger and rage.
Because we don't even have the problem of saying goodbye. We believe that feelings can only be a variation of these states. Either fire or ice. Because we don't know anything else. Because they haven't taught us to feel differently. Because we didn't risk saying goodbye.
We believe our hearts will freeze and that we will never feel the fire again. True, the best thing that can happen is that we no longer feel that burning that consumes us. There is another state, neither so cold nor so stuffy.
A soft, welcoming midpoint of warmth. That doesn't burn us. That doesn't freeze us. That fills the chest and extends to the tips of the toes.
It is when you say goodbye that someone who appears it hugs us so tightly that our hearts melt again. It may not be next week or next year, but it will come. When we learn to truly say goodbye, with all its consequences, then our soul will be free to welcome to someone who really deserves it.
Little by little we will learn to say goodbye to those who have taken advantage of us, our friendship and our trust. We will say goodbye to the people who are here today and tomorrow with whoever is more successful. To those people who live in the shadow of others because they are unable to radiate their own light.
Those interested, selfish and sad people. Those who deserve our farewell, but the one with intonation and dot at the end.
Surround yourself with people who have learned to say goodbye like you because with them you will have the certainty of a friendship. They suffered, they cried and they let go. They know what they want and the best part is that they want you by their side. With your quirks and your quirks, but at their side.
When you learn to say goodbye, you will build true and enriching relationships. Your circle will shrink, but none of the people who are part of it will change for all the gold in the world.
They say friends are the family we choose. Say goodbye to those you cannot call brother or sister.
The fear of loneliness sometimes leads us to put ellipses, to say goodbye instead of not wanting to see you again, but this loneliness is necessary to know who you need around you.
Perhaps this is why throughout our lives we maintain relationships that do not bring us anything, do not make us grow or complete us. The worst thing that can happen is living surrounded by people and feeling alone.
With all this noise, the feelings are felt with interference, as if it were an old radio tuned badly.
Listen to yourselves. Get away from the noise. Your time is precious. Don't waste it on people who don't deserve it. Learn to say goodbye. Free yourself from the chains and make room for new welcome.
Because as the Spanish poet Sabina says, “to say goodbye, there are plenty of reasons”.
