There are attitudes of vital importance for a couple relationship to work and last over time. But how can you be kind in love?
Last update: April 18, 2022
Being happy with another person isn't as simple as consulting an instruction manual, especially as the years go by. We must not forget that a relationship is like a garden that must always be cared for. And that can only be washed down by effort and dedication. However, According to some research, being kind in a relationship is an important element that strengthens the bond.
Who doesn't strive to show their best qualities early in a relationship? In the early days we care about our partner's well-being. We pay attention to the smallest details and we act with the aim of protecting and strengthening this young bond. However, little by little, the attention gradually fades and habits, monotony, and perhaps a little lack of interest, begin to enter the scene. And it can happen that you forget to be nice to your partner.
The surprises, the gifts, the desire to indulge and pamper each other are over. In short, that desire to cause astonishment, motivated by a tangible charge of affection. When all of this disappears, gradually or suddenly, it can be a sign of an irreparable deterioration in the relationship.
Why is it important to be kind in a relationship?
Generally speaking, being kind is one of the most valued attitudes. According to polls, this is equally important for men and women. However, when you are immersed in a couple crisis, it is normal to lose this sensitivity. And that's when, if nothing is done, things start to go wrong.
Being kind in a relationship is essential to feeling satisfied. According to experts, one of the best "measures" of a relationship's health is the degree of perceived support. What's better than being with a person who understands us, listens to us and helps us enjoy life more?
Unless it is a toxic relationship, the normal thing is for both partners to find satisfaction in giving support and always being available. However, monotony and time can dim that flame, that prospect of life in common that we had at the beginning.
This is why it is necessary to make a conscious and continuous effort to always maintain the highest quality of interactions with the partner.
How can you be kind in love?
Cultivating kindness in the couple is essential to maintaining a healthy and long-term bond. Below we will give you some simple, but effective, tips to do this:
Unconditional acceptance of the other
Sometimes, secretly, it is hoped that the other person will change to meet their own wishes or expectations. Somehow you want her to be different. The problem is that this attitude can lead to great frustration. The partner, in fact, will not always act as we expect and if he did, he would stop being himself.
Learning to love the other as they are, accepting their way of being is essential for maintaining a stable relationship. Of course, this does not mean that we must accept disrespectful behavior or that can lead to suffering. There are limits that must not be exceeded.
It is important to keep in mind that the other person acts in the best way, according to their point of view and based on their past experience. Except for toxic and abusive relationships, usually one does not act with bad intentions. Therefore, it is best to try to understand the problems and create a couple communication to talk about what is causing any discomfort.
Keeping this in mind helps cultivate an attitude of kindness towards the other, even in the most complicated moments.
A constant support, always and in any case
One of the most frequent problems in couples in crisis, especially if they have been together for some time, is the lack of reciprocal acts of love. At some point, it happens that one member of the relationship feels that the other is not paying him due attention. The feeling of being unimportant, secondary and replaceable is truly tremendous. It is always necessary to make the partner understand that for him / her we are there today, tomorrow and forever.
According to the theory of the five languages of love, each individual develops a dissimilar perception of how others view him. For some, physical contact is the most important element. For others, words of support or a feeling of sharing make them feel special.
For this reason, being kind in the relationship helps you understand what makes the other person feel important and loved. It is about knowing how to listen, perceive and set up a very intimate and profound dialogue.
Of course, acceptance and support aren't the only ways to improve the stability of a relationship. However, knowing how to insert them in everyday life and putting them into practice in a sincere way will certainly produce a positive influence.
Obviously, we cannot forget that it is essential that there is commitment, respect and love in the relationship by both of them. In addition to being aware that mutual effort and attention are always required.