If you have never heard of bud sex, in this article we will reveal all the characteristics of a new fashion trend among straight men.
Last update: April 29, 2022
Bud sex is a new concept in the field of sexual intercourse. It is a term used to refer to the sexual practice between heterosexual men for pure pleasure and which, moreover, claims their heterosexuality.
Many believe it is impossible to practice bud sex without being homosexual, while others see it as an activity that is all about pure sexual pleasure. Those who practice it defend their heterosexuality, in some cases even have partners and children, explaining that they do it simply to satisfy his instincts of him.
If you want to know everything about this new trend, don't miss this article.
What is bud sex?
The phenomenon of bud sex came to light following a research conducted by sociologist Tony Silva of the University of Otago, New Zealand.
The study consisted of analyzing this practice among men from a rural population. Based on their testimonies, Professor Silva was able to define some of the main characteristics on which this unusual practice is based, and the meaning it has for those who practice it themselves.
Tony Silva explained that the goal was to study bud sex and relate it to the multiple factors that influence sexual identity. Like the culture, the social context, the place, the historical moment and personal interpretations.
According to the data obtained in the research, the participants in this sexual practice selected their partners on the basis of masculinity, race and sexual identity. Some men choose other men of the same race (in this case white, because the study was conducted on this part of the population), heterosexual or, in private, bisexual.
Based on these assumptions, their encounters can be normalized as straight and normatively male (even if sex is practiced between men), since choosing people like them makes them feel "out" of homosexuality.
Characteristics of Bud Sex
There is no romance in bud sex, although it is true that emotional bonds can also be created. Usually, partners establish the foundation of their relationship on complicity and friendship. They often share the same hobbies, talk about politics, go out together to meet women, etc. Sex is another element in the relationship.
"Sex without love only alleviates the abyss that momentarily exists between two human beings."
Erich Fromm
Another key feature of bud sex is the secrecy surrounding this practice. Most of the interviewees admitted that one of the fundamental prerogatives is that this relationship must always be kept secret. In this way, we discover that the fundamental pillar is not so much sex, rather how it is put into practice.
Those who practice bud sex maintain a non-romantic and hidden relationship and interpret sexual acts from an existing hetero-normality point of view to reaffirm their masculinity.
We thus have profiles of men heterosexual, white, usually married and with children, aged 50 and who have internalized hetero-normality and the rules of male sex for a long time. Normally, they lived in an age when it was difficult to express any other type of sexual desire. Finally, they understand masculinity as a characteristic devoid of feminine characteristics, based on gender stereotypes.
The problem of homophobia
While having sexual intercourse with other men, those who practice bud sex make homophobic speeches. The rejection of the feminine is evident when choosing a sexual partner. Not surprisingly, men with an effeminate appearance are "discarded" because they are unsuitable for this purely sexual activity.
Sharing a bed with another man who views homosexuality more openly gives them a view of themselves that clashes with what they have learned, culturally and socially.
On the other hand, this homophobic thinking may derive from a previous stereotyped thinking, concerning female and male roles. That is to say, feminine characteristics are considered "not up to par" for bud sex. We therefore understand the choice to fall only on male profiles, as similar as possible and adjacent to the concept of "macho".
In conclusion, bud sex is a practice that some men practice to express and give vent to their sexual desire. A desire of which they have been deprived and which, until a few years ago, was absolutely impracticable. However, learned morals and internalized norms guide their behavior. Therefore, the way they practice it and the choice of their sexual partner's profile serve as a clear reaffirmation of their beliefs.
