Assertiveness is a form of communication that must be learned and trained. It is important to know all fundamental assertive rights. Let's see some of them.
Last update: December 15, 2020
Assertiveness is the capacity to defend their rights in a non-aggressive way. The right to be yourself, to express what you think or feel with the utmost respect for yourself and for others. In addition to this, a person can be assertive when he knows his rights and the possibilities available to him to protect them.
Today we will focus on three basic assertive rights, without forgetting that there are many more. So, instead of making an endless list, we will analyze three: the right not to give explanations, the right to assert oneself and the right to have fun.
Assertiveness: a little known concept
Basic assertive rights are all those that accompany existence. This means that others enjoy the same assertive rights as we do. A fact that should not be forgotten when we have to choose the way in which we defend them.
Assertiveness is exactly the quality, understood as knowledge, audacity and know-how, that it allows us to defend our rights when the situation does not favor them defense. Thanks to assertiveness, we can say no to our boss or a friend when they ask us for a favor or we can point out an injustice when a friend does it.
Thanks to assertive communication we can express opinions, defend rights and make suggestions without violating those of others. Honest communication with others will also allow us to maintain a healthier dialogue, as we will not have to justify our conduct and this will avoid disagreements.
We are talking about a way of communicating that you learn and train. To do this, we describe the most important assertive rights in the following lines.
The 3 fundamental assertive rights
The explanations are voluntary
There are countless times in which we feel obligated to justify our decisions or actions, even our opinions. But we are certainly obliged to give only the explanations we want to give.
Everyone is his own judge, and the fundamental assertive right not to give explanations arises from the fact that no one can judge others. If you often find yourself in situations where you have to give a lot of explanations that you don't want to give, maybe you are focusing your existence on pleasing others in order to be accepted.
You don't have to please everyone, but you certainly deserve to be respected by all. Many of the ideas you hold are not logical, as are many of your beliefs. To put up with this inconsistency in front of yourself and others and put it into action takes practice… and assertiveness.
The right to succeed
Apparently defending this right is a tall order, isn't it? In fact, sometimes it can be, and a lot. For the many goals we aspire to and have achieved, perhaps not without pain, there is a precise competence. Let's talk about one ability that is not always correct or who, out of envy, does not hesitate to sabotage what we have conquered.
On the other hand, Procrustean syndrome is the denomination given to those people who feel the need to belittle those who overcome them. The fear of being victims of this unpleasant situation it forces some people to do everything they can to not stand out on others.
Assertiveness and the right to have fun
The right to have fun and be happy. Many people who work hard, who strive every day, who have gone through a difficult time or have experienced a dramatic event, feel like they have awakened afterwards. Of course the right to joy must be considered as fundamental.
The Middle Ages were a dark period, during which cheerfulness and smiles were forbidden in various places. The vision of life as a path of suffering was widespread. And so, in such a scenario, the celebrations were censored.
We've certainly taken some steps forward in terms of assertiveness. Important steps, there is no doubt. Nonetheless, still today some people avoid rejoicing or displaying their cheerfulness for fear of being histrionic.