Learn to say no: how, when and why

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Robert Maurer


Rejecting a request can be tricky at times. Learn to say no through these strategies.

Do you wish you could put your feet up sometimes and say no? Many of us feel compelled to accept every impending request and prefer juggle a million activities instead of saying noeven if it means not having time for ourselves. But learning to say no can help you earn respect for yourself and those around you.

Because we say too many yes and few no

So why do we keep saying yes? Perhaps we believe that saying no is a sign of disinterest, even a selfish act, and we may be afraid of disappointing those in front of us. In addition, we may be afraid of being unloved, of being criticized, or of risking a friendship.

It is interesting notación that the ability to say no is closely linked to self-confidence. People with low self-esteem often tend to value the needs of others more than their own.

Perhaps authoritarian parents or the lack of a father figure can stimulate this tendency. Women in particular are prone to falling into this trap. He may have been raised as a "honey" who was always good and took care of other children. These influences from childhood are the basis for the formation of beliefs like, "I'm only lovable if I'm accommodating and helpful to others." If you feel like you've become a "tool for other people," your self-esteem may depend on the things you do for others. A vicious circle develops in which the people around you expect you to always be at their service and to fulfill all their wishes.

Being unable to say that it can't do you exhausted, stressed e irritable. It could undermine any effort you make to improve quality of your life, especially if you spend hours thinking about how to free yourself from an acquired commitment. Also, if your free time is filled with meetings, gatherings, and many other commitments, your true loved ones may suffer.

Don't wait for your energy and time to run out before stepping back and assessing the situation. And above all, learn to say no!

It's okay to say "no." Here's how and why to do it

Saying "no" gives you the ability to set your own limits

The art of saying no is based on the concept of set limits and make one's decisions abundance state of mindinstead of fear.

When you make decisions based on fear, it's usually because you feel like you might be missing out. Will I miss the biggest opportunity of my life if I say no? Will this person abandon me? Will I lose the reference I need?

La worry about losing something can take you to Do nothing. But the truth is, for every No you say, countless opportunities will open up. All you have to do is establish principles to follow, Y limit which is better not to overcome.

Personally, I set my limits by writing them down.

start noticing me all past experiences that were unpleasant or harmful to me. So I throw away that paper because I definitely I don't want those things in my life. I use that list like trampoline write everything I want: mine goals, skills I want to develop, the kind of people I want to try

I say "no" to anything outside of that list.

Setting boundaries can be difficult at first, but remember, you're not necessarily missing out or denying yourself opportunities. You are making room in your life for the things you really want. Think of it like a closet. If you never empty it, you will eventually run out of room to put on new shirts.

If you want something new, you must first make room. To do this, learn to say no!

Trust your gut when making a decision

Setting personal boundaries is one of the key steps in learning to say no, but knowing when to give in or walk away is instinctual.

Learn to trust your intuition.

we all have that little voice inside our head that it makes itself felt when something doesn't feel right. It doesn't always tell you exactly what's wrong with the situation or person you're dealing with, but you know something is wrong. you feel it physically.

We often try to suppress that voice in our head and ignore it. Let's try to rationalize it by thinking: "This will be a great opportunity". But actually it is the fear that speaks. When you start from an abundance mindset, you understand that dealing with this person will prevent you from associating with someone exceptional.

It's not about saying "no" to everything.

I firmly believe in necesidad have unpredictable moments e magic of our life. I'm not saying you have to say "no" and avoid any type of experience that doesn't fit on your list.

In fact, saying “no” is exactly what you need: to make room for new and exciting opportunities that you don't always see far ahead.

Learn to say no thanks to these tricks:

To help you say no to someone, try the following tips:

  • Keep your answer simple. If you want to say no, be firm and direct. Use a phrase like "Thanks for coming to me, but I'm afraid I can't do it right now" or "I'm sorry, but I can't help you tonight." Try to be strong in your body language and don't be too apologetic. Remember, you don't have to ask permission to say no.
  • Save time. Break the cycle of "Yes" by using phrases like "I'll let you know," then consider your options. After thinking about it, you will be able to say no more with confidence.
  • Consider a compromise. come to a compromise only if you really want to fulfill the request, but have limited time and capacity to do so. Suggest solutions that can satisfy both of you. Avoid committing if you really prefer to say no.
  • Separate "no" from rejection. Remember that you are rejecting a request, not a person. People often understand that it is their right to say no, just as it is their right to ask for the favor.
  • Don't feel guilty about saying no to your children. It is important to say no to your children from time to time so that they develop self-control and learn to metabolize waste. It is difficult to manage adult life without this important skill. Instead of giving in to their protests, let them know what is right and what is wrong to ask by setting limits.
  • Be honest with yourself. Be clear and honest with yourself about what you really want. Try to better understand who you are and what you really want from life.

Learn to say no, now it's your turn

we have provided you a set of tools to help you get yours back independence and yours time. Learning to say is not just a matter of practice, Now it's your turn to put what you've learned into practice.

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