Touch the bottom: a difficult situation to assess and improve.
Success is the higher you bounce when you hit bottom.George Smith Patton
It is useless to tell ourselves the lies that if we touch the bottom we must observe things from a different perspective and we will see everything change; in this regard, take a look at the article: I want to change my life.
If we have hit rock bottom, thinking that we are in another situation will not immediately take us to the top of the world. useless to create illusions.
The most effective solution, on the other hand, is to become fully aware of your situation and try to go up one step at a time.
In this article we see what it means to hit rock bottom and how to really go up without having so many castles in the air.
Ready? Let's begin.
Hitting the bottom is different for each of us
Touch the bottom it is a different experience for each person, the feelings you feel depend on the situation in which we find ourselves and on the experience we have accumulated in the past.
Maybe you've ever lost your job, ended a relationship brutally, or faced a particularly traumatic event.
Losing your job, for example, means feeling unable to look after yourself and loved ones, resulting in it feeling of helplessness general and lowered self-esteem.
When we touch the bottom we somehow perceive it, we feel it within us.
We experience unpleasant sensations, we suddenly feel alone (even though we are surrounded by great people), we nurture a little faith in our possibilities and we seem to be lost.
In this context, we also have the feeling that no one is truly able to help us and truly understand us.
Whatever your situation, let's see how to gain momentum to get back up.
How to ascend after hitting bottom in 3 steps
# 1 The forgotten light
When we hit rock bottom, we completely lose sight of the fact that we had light in the past and that we might have it now too.
In the worst moments we can no longer even consider that things can get better.
We focus exclusively on the facts that hurt us and that unconsciously feed the feeling of malaise.
To get back up after hitting rock bottom, you first need to accept the fact that if things have gone wrong, they won't necessarily have to go wrong in the future as well.
Indeed, if we go back up, we will be stronger than before.
Pain hardly leaves us as it found us.
We must avoid getting too used to suffering or we will end up considering it as a painful and disarming normality.
# 2 Hitting the bottom leaves us only two options
When we hit rock bottom, there are only two options.
Either we remain in a state of self-pity, of suffering and wallow in our tragedy, or we take the momentum to get back up.
Continue to remain spectators of our tragedy it is a great temptation, because we may continue to be pampered by others, to stay in our comfort zone and stop exposing ourselves to the outside world.
Staying still in suffering, however unpleasant, gives us a certain security.
In fact, we will end up knowing pain in depth and letting it go can be even more traumatic.
But if you have become aware that we have seen in the first point, you can allow yourself to dream of a better future, which requires commitment, but which in the end will bring great satisfaction.
# 3 Begin the ascent
As we have seen, staying in the abyss is one great temptation which is difficult to abandon.
You are in a similar situation to trying to do pull-ups.
We cling to the bar and try with all our strength to lift the weight of our own body, fighting against the gravity that pushes us down.
But every time we manage to lift our weight we get stronger and gravity, which seemed like just a negative force, allows us to constantly improve.
The gravity, the obstacles and the difficulties make us stronger if we learn how to re-evaluate them a posteriori.
When we want to go back up after having hit the bottom we find ourselves in a similar situation.
We start at a disadvantage with all the adverse factors, but as we go up a step at a time we become stronger and we realize that it was the obstacles themselves that made us stronger.
For this reason the best way to start this ascent process is to use the kaizen philosophy.
Small daily steps aligned towards a goal.
If you are out of a relationship and are stuck in a house or room, take a little step on your way out for a walk in the fresh air.
If you've lost your job, write a new resume.
No matter how small the steps are, the important thing is to proceed slowly, little by little but with inexorable constancy.
The (few) advantages of hitting bottom
As I said hitting the bottom is not pleasant but there can really be some positives.
- There is hardly anything left to lose, so you are freer
- You have greater awareness thanks to the new world view
- Bottom and back can be an additional motivation to improve your whole life
- We have a chance to be better people than we were
- One is a little more tempered than before thanks to the pain
- Goals can only point upwards
- We have already risked ruining our lives, now we can move forward
Touch the bottom it could span an hour of your life, a day, or even a longer period of time.
The important thing is not to feel sorry for yourself more than the time necessary to absorb the discomfort.
Once you have taken stock of the situation, it is good to go back one step at a time, inch by inch to give direction to your life.
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