Last update: February 18, 2022
Much of who we are is determined by what we have experienced. We usually discredit the teaching that comes from the hardest experiences, without thinking about the positive change that these have given us, but focusing only on the negative aspects.
We want to go back to how we were before terrible things happened to us, without considering that life inevitably puts us in the kind of situations from which we can come out defeated or stronger than before.
In reality, it is dark times, great disappointments and unpleasant facts that reveal our true nature and make us stronger and more resilient.. Random or not, sometimes this storm we have faced has given us life again. Paradoxically, without us ever expecting it, after experiencing great pain or disappointment, we find a calm that we never had.
The storms that transform us
If life was all downhill and simple, then it wouldn't be life. If all people in the world were the same and wanted the same things, human relationships would be empty and there would be no motivation to fight and want to improve.. Even if we imagine a society full of justice and equality, a wonderful thing that we all want, conflicts will continue to occur.
The lack of stability lies in the very nature that surrounds us and in our nature as human beings. Not being able to tolerate ambiguity, uncertainty and conflict is a fertile ground for developing psychological disorders. The myth of stable life is just that, a myth.
If we are aware of this, we will be prepared for the fact that abrupt changes and painful events are possible. Prepared and aware, never trained ... in this lies the beauty and variety of human beings, in the way they know how to deal with good and evil.
Haruki Murakami
The next time a storm comes, then, it will be normal to be afraid, even if you continue to stand. If it tries to make you sink, take this pain consciously and selectively, not with a passive or masochistic attitude..
It is the small details that can reveal many things about yourself that may be of use to you later on. Maybe all those little bruises showed you who or what hurt you.
Eventually, there are storms that are inevitable in this life. Once you get in the way, get soaked and maybe you'll come up with cleaner ideas or directly with new ideas that will bring you back to life.
