Last update: February 14, 2015
In the course of life we find ourselves facing situations or moments that are difficult or uncomfortable for us. Maybe they are simply scenarios in which our emotions don't know how to act, they don't know weapons to fight them.
This is a natural fact, the human being learns from experience and from what surrounds him. Every day we experience circumstances that challenge the deepest part of our being. The outcome of our decisions is not always good for us. Developing defense mechanisms is something innate in human nature, we are warriors who have to face continuous battles, we must choose the best weapons to fight and we often create armor, a protection that alters our emotional quality.
The emotional armor
The defensive attitude towards life is an emotional activity that goes on for 24 hours a day. It has the function of enduring the daily vicissitudes, but this does not mean that it always does it in a healthy way. It is true that defense mechanisms allow us to better manage situations, but in the long run we will have created an emotional armor that we will use in the face of similar situations that repeat themselves.. The consequences of this emotional armor are:
• Ability to deny these situations or feel no emotion about them.
• Evasion of any liability concerning various situations. Making excuses or blaming other people only makes this consequence more negative.
• Negative management of faults. Justifying our faults does nothing but damage our emotional personality and does not help us communicate.
• Low self-esteem and insecurity. These two emotional pillars destroy our ability to relate to others and to love each other.
• Desire to be a "perfect" person. By hiding their emotions or weaknesses, they try to give the idea of a perfect soul, who does not feel or is immune to any feelings..
• Weak self-knowledge. This consequence affects who we are, what we want and how we want it. Ultimately, we show a poorly defined and obscure image of ourselves.
The emotional armor hinders the vision of the reality that surrounds us, limiting our personal growth. In general, we end up turning into gruff, skeptical people, without the ability to dream. Little by little we destroy our personality and sow victims within our circle.
Get rid of the emotional armor
In the face of any destructive feeling, which can undermine the emotional quality of our life, the first step is to be honest with yourself.
Accept yourself for what you are, without looking for a model of unreal perfection, because no one is perfect. It is essential to have an examination of conscience and understand yourself.
These concepts cannot be acquired overnight, you have to demonstrate perseverance and motivation and try to take control of your life every day..
Communication is the cornerstone on the path that will lead to the destruction of this emotional armor. It is important to talk to yourself, as well as to show others your desires, fears, doubts and ideas, the fundamental ingredients to approach the world, free, without armor to prevent growth..