We often have habits, ways of thinking, attitudes and behaviors that play against us. They are the "energy thieves", in the most literal sense of the term, because they steal our strengths, the mental and the physical, diverting them to completely useless worries and mental states that do not bring anything and make us feel bad. The main problem is that these "energy thieves" work in secret, in the shadows, they transform into something so habitual that we do not perceive its existence.
The habits that take away our health, balance and happiness
1. Complain. Some people have made complaints their life's purpose, they just live to complain, they always find a reason to be dissatisfied. The problem is that these people don't complain to solve problems, but simply to wallow in them. As a result, they are constantly poking around in their "everyday trash" looking for something to complain about. In this way they focus their energies on something totally useless.
2. Postpone continuously. Continuously postponing those tasks that sooner or later we will have to face, is the best way to add unnecessary stress to life. In fact, it is often more stressful to have to remember what to do than to face it and get it done.
3. Do not give us the necessary rest. Society is very demanding of us, but we can't always keep up the pace. In reality, expecting to live continuously in the fast lane will sooner or later present us with a hefty bill to pay, both physically and psychologically. So it is desirable not to wait to get to the limit to rest but it is advisable to make rest a daily habit.
4. Being disorganized. The places where disorder reigns are like a black hole that sucks our energy. Chaos will make us waste precious time searching for things and, above all, it generates a feeling of uncertainty and disorganization in our brain, making us even more exhausted. Spend some time cleaning from time to time, a tidy desk and house will make you feel much better and transmit positive energy.
5. Don't accept the facts. Acceptance is not resignation. Accepting means taking on the things you cannot change and doing what you can to change those over which you have control. When a situation is not accepted, it turns into an obstacle in our path, an extra stone in the backpack of our life that will make us proceed much more slowly and with difficulty.
6. Grasping at things or people. Detachment is difficult to put into practice, but it is essential if we don't want to suffer more than necessary. Detachment does not mean not loving, but loving leaving the other free, aware that at a certain moment that person could abandon us. Obsessively grasping at things or people only generates addiction and malaise. Also, swimming against the current will cause us to lose precious energy that could be used in other projects that make us happier.
7. Worrying unnecessarily. We usually do not react to situations but to the image of the same that we have created in our mind. In this framework we are not objective, but we include all concerns about what might happen. This tendency towards negativity adds completely unnecessary stress and anxiety because often those bad predictions don't turn into a plan of action, but are just annoying flies buzzing in our minds. So, when faced with a difficult situation, it is best to focus on the here and now, take one step at a time, without imagining the negative consequences that are likely not to arise.
8. Not knowing how to say "no". People who can't say "no" tend to overload themselves with tasks that end up destroying them, both physically and mentally. Many times these people do not say no because they feel embarrassed or because they fear that others will reject them. However, time is the most valuable asset we have and we should use it wisely. Don't waste it on projects that don't motivate you or aren't your responsibility. Having time for yourself, your family, and enjoying what you love is essential for your health.
9. Holding a grudge. Hate and resentment are feelings that consume us on a slow fire. These feelings, nurtured over the years, also have very negative consequences on our physical health as they can trigger various diseases. Therefore it is very important to learn to let go. Of course, all wounds need time to heal, but you need to make sure that this time is not excessive.
10. Don't decide. When we have to make important decisions, it is normal for us to have doubts and want to have more time to think, but continually postponing decisions will eventually drain us of precious energy by sinking into a state of uncertainty and malaise. Therefore, it is advisable to get rid of all "internal battles". We must accept that we will not always make the best decision, maybe we will make mistakes, but mistakes will always teach us something. It is better to make mistakes and try to make amends than to stay still and suffer in indecision.