Everyone, sooner or later, needs our dose of suffering. The causes can be
very different but the feeling you get is always the same: a mixture of
pain and pain that generates anxiety, frustration and despair.
a negative connotation but it is certain that this feeling also has its sides
positive, only sometimes it is difficult for us to see them. Often the
suffering can show us the best sides of ourselves as it forces us to
learn from our mistakes and give more value to things or people than us
are around. In this way even suffering can turn into
a valuable resource, we just need to know how:1. Use the
bad to appreciate the good: reality has many faces, every situation contains
certain levels of pain and pleasure. The ideal is not to position yourself to the side
extreme pleasure but rather finding the right balance. Suffering can be the way to evaluate
the good things in life. When you feel bad, take a break and
think of all the things you have in this moment that you can do
consider yourself happy. Surely the situation isn't as bad as it is
it seems.
2. Consider
suffering as an opportunity to grow:
we normally suffer because something did not meet our expectations,
something broke our plans or disrupted a status quo that pleased us. At this point we just have to look
back to learn from mistakes so as not to go back to making them
in the future. Suffering is an opportunity to test
our strengths and our ability to overcome obstacles. In short, the
suffering is the prerequisite for resilience.
3. Strengthens
your interpersonal relationships: when things go wrong is the time when
we need the support of family and friends more. Take advantage of
this time to create even stronger bonds by opening your world
interior to others.Not all people know how to ask for help and
accept it, but this skill is necessary to maintain balance
psychological. A problematic situation that generates a certain amount of suffering
it can be ideal for connecting with others and coming out of them strengthened and
supported by a much stronger support network.
4. Listen
your emotions: current life is so hectic that it leaves you well
little room for introspection? So to succeed in having a good one
psychological balance, it is very important that you understand your feelings; that is,
that you understand what you feel and why.When we feel bad instead of running away from suffering,
we should turn the same into an opportunity to discover new aspects of
we who did not know. For example, how many times have people had to
to suffer for a separation to realize how much they loved deeply
their partner?5. Be more
empathetic: one of the most common complaints from people suffering from
mental disorders is that psychologists fail to fully understand her
magnitude the problem they are experiencing. True! To really understand a
problem you must always experience it on your own skin. For this suffering
it gives us the opportunity to be more human and to understand much better pains and
discomfort of others. In summary, suffering is never welcome,
especially in a society as hedonistic as ours, but if we assume it in
a more positive outlook, it could turn into an opportunity for
learn and grow. So it will be less heavy to bear.
