Remorse: how to avoid the burden

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Louise Hay
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Live without remorse DON'T
it's easy. There are too many things that they turn into during life
heavy burdens creating strong feelings of guilt. When we look behind
us and do a quick review of the decisions we made during the
life, perhaps now, reconsidering them from new points of view, we realize
that we were wrong and this causes us anxiety and, of course, remorse.


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anyway, living in the past, continually blaming ourselves for what
we have done (or for what we have not done and should have done) is something as useless as dance
for the rain. Fortunately
it is possible to learn to live without remorse. Like? Below I propose you
a few simple tips that are quite useful: 1. Beloved. It can
sound stupid but it is certain that people constantly blame themselves
because they are too rigid with themselves and do not love each other well enough. For
free ourselves from this problem, I invite you to imagine yourself as a child
small and helpless. What would you do when you find yourself in front of a defenseless child? Of course
you would approach and offer your love by trying to transmit it
safety. However,
what we do with our inner "I" is to blame and complain
all that he has not been able to do in a different way. Sure, we had others
possibility but ... what's the point of crying over spilled milk? TO
this point we must realize that our "I" is not perfect, it is wrong
and he suffers so many fears and discomfort from the difficulty in making up his mind just like a
little child. In short, rather than shouting our disapproval
we should give him love and security. We should understand that even if we have
wrong, however, we are always people of value. 2. Allow yourself to be wrong. Il
the fact that we allow ourselves to make mistakes does not mean that our life does
it will turn into a chain of bad decisions. Rather it means that
we understand that we are human and that sometimes we can even make mistakes. The
people living with remorse don't realize they are simply evaluating
decisions made in the past in light of new information with which not
counted previously. For this reason, when we evaluate our decisions,
it is imperative to realize that we have done the best possible thing
compared to the data we had available. 3. Ask for help. Se
there is a reason why remorse is worthwhile is not
ever asking for help when we might have. Normally people
external to our problem may glimpse solutions that we fail to
to see. Finally, asking others for advice is key to making sure
that we are making the right decision. 4. Express your feelings. La
society often teaches us to hide our feelings, however express
what we feel is great exercise to relieve stress and be more
happy. When people are able to assertively demonstrate what
they try, they manage to have a much happier life and they can let it go
problems much more easily. When
our behavior, thoughts and feelings are congruous, they do not exist
reasons for remorse. We need to reclaim our rights more often
but also to say "I love you" to ourselves more frequently. 5. Enjoy every moment. I
problems we face on a daily basis cause our body and
our minds are in two distinct places at the same time. In this
way, we will not solve the problem let alone enjoy the moments fully
pleasant that life gives us. For
to live with less stress and be a little happier, it is essential to learn how to
be fully conscious and this means that we will have to live each
situation with the intensity it deserves. Rediscover the pleasure of nature e
good company can be a good start. 6. Take risks. A
one of the main causes of remorse depends on not having seized an opportunity
when this occurred. The problem lies in that the different opportunities do
always present in the form of risk and we all have a tendency to be
you are looking for. A
this point, I emphasize that taking risks does not mean jumping into the void for
simply experience strong emotions but rather weigh all the pros and cons
against, evaluate if it is worth it and eventually accept the challenge. There
is nothing worse than asking: “what
would it have happened if I had done ...? " 7. Learn to let it go.
When we are emotionally compromised with a non person or situation
it's easy to let it all go. It certainly isn't something that happens
immediately but it is vital that we strive to maintain this
attitude. We have to
remember that "letting go" does not mean forgetting but rather
remembering without resentment, jealousy or remorse. Leaving it alone means the
life follows its course and that the past remains only as an experience useful to
which one to draw on.
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