Pathological Anger --What Is It Hiding?

There are people who are constantly angry, it's like anger is their natural state. And they don't hesitate a second to unload the anger on everyone they meet on their way. These people behave like real human "garbage trucks", they do not recognize the load on their shoulders, but are willing to dump it on the first person they meet. On other occasions, we are the ones who experience phases of chronic anger. Sometimes you can even spend several consecutive days in rage without even realizing it. We feel irritated and explode at the slightest stimulus, overreacting to situations that in other circumstances would not have bothered us. In these cases, it is difficult for us to control our behavior and negative emotions.

What is meant by chronic anger?

First, it is important to clarify that, in some cases, it is perfectly understandable that we react with anger. In fact, small outbursts of anger can also have cathartic power because they allow us to release the tension and move on. Of course, we need to make sure that those outbursts of irritability don't harm others or cause us to do or say things that we will later regret. However, chronic anger is not just a passing frustration, it is a much more complex state. person experiencing chronic anger is almost always in a bad mood, the state extends for weeks, months or even years. In fact, we all know people who could be defined as "chronically angry", eternally angry people who never smile and who bothers everything. These people have made anger a common way of dealing with life, they have transformed it into a comparison strategy. Therefore, everything bothers them, even the most mundane situations, they easily lose control and become intractable.The interesting fact is that their anger is not usually directed at one person, situation or event, but at the whole world and life in general. The fact is that these people experience a permanent sense of annoyance and boredom. They develop an intolerant attitude and are overly critical of others or resort to denigration. Of course, chronic anger also has profound health implications as it can generate high blood pressure, headaches or aggravate existing illnesses. On a psychological level, it has been linked to depression, as it ends up causing deep sadness that eventually turns into despair. The person who is constantly angry puts more negative emotions on the emotional scale, so it is not surprising that disappointment and depression increase. Of course, chronic anger also causes problems in interpersonal relationships. People who are constantly angry are difficult to deal with so they often violate the rights of others by reacting violently. Discussions are their daily bread so that those around them slowly begin to avoid contact and leave them alone.

What's Underlying Chronic Anger?

Anger is nothing more than an attempt to reduce the tension we perceive from a situation that we find difficult to manage. When we superficially analyze the situation we come to a simple solution: get angry. For example, if a person jokes about a mistake we have made, we can react in different ways. Confident people may even laugh at the mistake, but an insecure person who doesn't know how to handle the situation is likely to end up getting angry. Since such a person is unable to assume the right spirit and laugh at himself, he shifts the conversation to another level and tries to arouse fear, because he perceives the joke as an attack on his "I." Therefore, anger changes the nature of the situation that triggered it. However, the interesting thing is that, even if anger manifests itself as a reaction to certain environmental situations, in reality its basis is rooted within us. Chronic anger is not just a reaction but is the expression of an internal problem. Of course, every person is different and it is difficult to find a single cause, but at the root of chronic anger there is usually a profound dissatisfaction. In reality, that person is not angry with the world, but with himself. That person turned, unintentionally, into his worst enemy.

The causes of chronic anger

1. Don't accept yourself. We all have an ideal image of how we should be. However, we often ask too much of ourselves and fail to fit within our parameters. When we judge ourselves too severely, we generate a deep sense of dissatisfaction. So we think we're not good enough and start tormenting ourselves. Finally, even though we project anger outward, we are actually angry with ourselves.
2. Having something pending that generates a sense of guilt. Mistakes are a major cause of chronic anger. When we are wrong, but we do not accept it because this error goes against the idealized image we have of our “I”, we get angry. Until we accept this mistake, until we make peace with our past, we cannot move forward and will continue to carry this anger with us.
3. Feeling dissatisfied with reality. When we have too high expectations and these do not correspond to reality, we begin to feel bad. However, in many cases, instead of adapting our expectations, we will want the world to change to fit us. Since this is not possible, little by little a sense of frustration is generated that leads us to be angry with the whole world.
4. Feeling insecure and vulnerable. Often, anger is not the primary emotion, but a response to emotions such as pain, fear, guilt, or sadness. However, these primary emotions make us vulnerable and this scares us. Therefore, we develop another emotion, such as anger, to hide them. So that, in some cases, anger is a defensive reaction that hides the fear of vulnerability at the base.
5. Desire to self-harm. In some cases, anger is a tool that our unconscious uses to indicate that there is something that worries us. When we spend weeks or months angry, sabotaging our personal relationships and emotional life is a way to draw attention to the need for change. This type of response usually occurs when we force ourselves to live a life that does not satisfy us. Anger is like an inner fire, it burns constantly, and if it does not go out, it will end up consuming everything in its path. However, the first step is to find out what causes it. Where does permanent anger come from? Always keep in mind that when you get angry because the neighbor is playing the music loud, because someone has parked occupying two spaces or because your colleague has made a mistake filling out a form, in reality this it is only the straw that broke the camel's back.When we have reached a state of inner peace, the little everyday problems are not able to irritate us. However, when we are angry, these little problems can trigger an emotional storm, so to combat chronic anger we need to immerse ourselves in ourselves and search for answers.
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