Sometimes we feed negative thoughts unconsciously. They are thoughts that can hurt so today we will give you the key to recognize them and reject them.
Last update: April 14, 2021
The negative thoughts we feed unaware can become our worst enemies, block the process of personal growth and instill in us a constant feeling of discomfort.
Our opinion of ourselves, the world or others is more important than we believe. It is what determines our daily life and the conception we have of life, influencing how we feel. For this, it becomes essential to identify the negative thoughts that we feed unknowingly.
Succeeding is not always easy, accustomed as we are to following pre-established and almost automatic, unconscious thought patterns. Most of the time, we don't even realize what we think or say.
“Our mind tends to remember bad, difficult, negative things. It is up to you to remind her of your greatness, your passion, your strength ”.
-Jorge Alvarez Camacho-
The list of 3 negative thoughts that we propose today can help you unmask these thoughts, at least in part. It will help you reflect on the subject and understand yourself better and the others. You are ready?
3 negative thoughts that we unknowingly feed
1. I'm not up to it
One of the most common insecurities is thinking that you are not up to par. Have you also felt that you are not good enough or capable in one or more aspects?
In today's society, more and more people are affected by an inferiority complex that leads them to the belief that they cannot reach the set goals. However, the tendency to underestimate oneself is only the result of a chain of negative thoughts.
Why do we feel we are not good enough? According to some experts, it has a lot to do with the information society. We live in a way that is perpetually connected to the internet, where it is all too easy to know what others are doing at any given moment and what is happening anywhere in the world.
Day after day we witness the journeys of others, we peek at what they eat, we see them reach goals and show themselves happy in their posts. This type of information, mostly filtered, negatively affects us by stimulating the bad habit of making comparisons, both towards our friends and the influencers, successful people of our society. The question is: what is the point of all this?
Comparisons are mostly a foolish practice, considering that each of us has our own background, a way of being and a personal story. We forget that it is impossible to make comparisons on equal terms, and we often let ourselves be overwhelmed by the result. Most of the time, to our detriment.
"You have to do the things you think you can't do."
2. Bad luck haunts me
Another negative thought we are addicted to is the one that we believe we are always the most unfortunate.
This thought can conflict with the previous one. Those who think they are not up to par, probably consider themselves inferior, less valid; however, attributing the problem to bad luck, doesn't he consider himself special compared to others?
Think about it: if you really believe that things "fail" because you are unlucky, aren't you actually placing yourself on a higher plane than others? Yet most of the time luck / bad luck has nothing to do with achieving your goals.
Maybe that's not your case, but more often than not, blaming bad luck is just a way to find a quick and obvious excuse for our problems.
By doing so, we avoid taking responsibility for what happens to us in life. For this reason, it is much healthier and more functional to forget about fate and work on controlling ourselves to achieve what we aspire to.
3. Everything will go wrong with negative thoughts
For some people it is normal to believe that everything will always go wrong. This thought, however, only fuels fear and binds our hands, preventing us from pursuing our goals due to insecurity and lack of confidence.
How long have you been thinking about quitting your job and going into private? Or starting that dream trip to a tropical country? Or maybe you'd like to invite the person you like to dinner but can't take the first step? And all this because you are afraid of what might happen.
The truth is that, in most cases, the consequences will not be as dire as we think. Thinking coldly, the doomsday scenarios that sometimes worry us have very little chance of happening. We are just too good at telling fairy tales.
In general, when things don't go as expected, the worst that can happen is to feel bad for a while… but then, in all likelihood, we'll try again.
In conclusion, do not hesitate to do everything to prevent fear from paralyzing you. Think about the most likely thing that could happen if you go in search of your dream. Most of the time you will find that the benefits far outweigh the possible risks.