Last update: April 24, 2016
Once as a child I injured my arm, the doctor treated me, explained the process by which wounds heal. Some wounds require suturing, a few stitches, some do not, but all of them require treatment and some time to disappear. Sometimes a small scar remains, others disappear completely.
A wound of the soul is similar to one of the body; it is not visible, but we feel it in the deepest part of our being, it makes us suffer and only the passage of time and our will allow it to heal. However, just like a physical wound, that of the soul can leave scars that will remind us of what happened and what we felt.
How to learn to forget negative events
Each of us has experienced situations that are very complicated to forget, which hurt. It can be a complicated childhood, a couple breakup, the death of a loved one, some situation at work that made us feel bad. Situations that generate a wound in our soul.
The situations experienced that have hurt us or that have influenced us in a negative way can be of different types, but only we can manage and control the way our experiences affect us.
The first step in forgetting is to accept. It is not necessary to banish the memory altogether, because remembering is human and we cannot avoid it, but we must make an effort to accept that memory, leave it in the memory and live with it in a peaceful way.
It is not a question of forgetting completely, but of not being invaded by suffering every time this painful memory comes back to our mind.
Once we accept the memory, we can forgive. It is not about forgiving others, but about forgiving ourselves without blaming ourselves. Knowing that the past cannot be changed, but the future can and it is in our hands to live the future in a different way without negative memories affecting us.
If we learn to see what has hurt us in the past, we can also appreciate the fact that there are events where we need to take responsibility. It doesn't mean feeling guilty, but learn to see what happened objectively and grow.
Take control of your life
Soul wounds are sometimes more painful than physical ones and last much longer, but there comes a time when we must take risks and have the courage to take control of our lives and ourselves, dominating and managing our emotions.
Taking control of your life is an action that requires courage and honesty. It means being realistic and seeing if there is something in your life that is not right or that you do not want; all this depends on one person: us. It does not depend on other people or other situations.
What happens every day in your life depends on your attitude, from what you do or stop doing, from the smile, from the joy, from the desire to overcome oneself.
Let time go by
It is true that time heals everything or, at least, allows us to have a different perspective, although not all of us need the same time to eliminate or mitigate painful memories.
Each person is different from the other and the our duel against difficult memories or situations that have hurt us takes a shorter or longer time.
A loving breakup with someone we have loved a lot is complicated to forget and accept, but over time, little by little, we will realize that perhaps it had to happen for another person to come into our life or for us to learn to enjoy ours. solitude.
This situation is just one example, but it allows us to see how the slow passing of time heals our wounds little by little until, one day, they disappear without realizing it.