The vast majority of people live trapped between the past and the future, so they let the present slip away. Many believe that when they get the coveted promotion they will be happier, when they find a partner they will finally be complete, when they retire they can do whatever they want ...
In this way they live by accumulating expectations for the future. They stop thinking about how to improve their current situation by imagining that they are living in tomorrow. They focus on how they should live or how they would like to live, not realizing that they are just mortgaging the present. Consequently, when they talk, the conversation is a constant complaint that encompasses all the misfortunes and frustrations of their daily life.
Thus, expecting something from the future while forgetting the present turns into a rope with which hands and feet are tied. So if we want our life to change, the first step, which is also the hardest to take, is to stop waiting.
What should you stop waiting for?
- Stop expecting something from others. Even though the people around you love and consider you, they have their own needs, dreams and illusions, so you can't expect them to always meet your expectations. In fact, when you release them from the yoke of expectations, you also release yourself. When you don't demand anything, what you are given will grow spontaneously and you will learn to appreciate it more. Also, don't expect too much from others, learn to trust yourself and you will feel much more confident.
- Stop expecting everything to be perfect. If you wait for conditions to be perfect to take the plunge and make the decision, chances are you'll stay where you are. The perfect moment does not exist, it is often a creation of the fear that haunts our mind. When we are afraid or feel in danger, we console ourselves with the idea that conditions are not the most favorable. Of course, it's not about jumping into the void without a parachute, but if there's something you really want, don't wait, go ahead and take the first steps. Stopping waiting for the perfect moment and getting to work creates an incredible feeling of power and makes you notice that the real architect of your life is you.
- Stop expecting too much of yourself. Often the expectations we place on our shoulders overwhelm us. The curious thing is that often tend to be the expectations our parents and adults had of us, so maybe it's time to get rid of them. It's okay to plan new challenges and goals, but if they create a lot of tension in you, to the point of damaging your well-being, you may be demanding too much of yourself. Living every day making sure you enjoy it takes away stress and, curiously, just when you get rid of your expectations, you reach your maximum potential because you feel much freer to do what you have always wanted and dreamed of. Remember that you are a unique and extraordinary person, you do not need to adapt to the expectations of others.
- Stop expecting too much from the future. Living in the future means taking time off from the present, which is where your life takes place. Begin to love what you have and feel satisfied with it. This doesn't mean you don't have to work to improve and achieve other goals, but if you already feel happy, the path to your new goals will be much more enjoyable because you know your happiness doesn't depend solely on them. We may not know what the future holds, but we do know what we have in the present, make sure you make the most of it and be grateful for all the little things in life.
What changes occur when you stop waiting?
- Take back control of your life, you are aware that your decisions, actions and attitudes have consequences and determine your path.
- You start taking small steps that will lead you in the right direction, instead of getting stuck in a vicious circle of complaining.
- You free yourself from an enormous burden, because you get rid of all the expectations that have acted as a brake on your development.
- You realize that even if you can achieve more and have other goals, you can feel grateful for who you are and have.
- Stop feeling frustrated because not having so many expectations, the setbacks will be less hard. You also learn to value unexpected gifts more.
- You begin to flow with the changes happening around you, you get in tune with the world and you can make better use of the opportunities it offers you.
In any case, don't wait until you have everything to enjoy life, you already have life to enjoy everything.