Last update: February 13, 2016
I love you and I don't know why, nor do I know from when or until when, but I know that I feel free, that I am myself and I am happy, that I smile every day. You let me fly, you make me dream. With you I want to share happy and sad, emotional or boring moments, I want to see the way life flows, I want to be invaded by love.
We all felt like this every now and then and, out of fear, we filled ourselves with questions: Why does he like me? Why does he love me? How will this relationship go? Will we fight? What will I do if he leaves me?
Love is a risk
Whenever we fall in love, we take a risk. It is a risk that scares us, but we must not allow doubts or restlessness to invade our mind and prevent us from enjoying the moment. The uncertainty that the other person does not feel the same for us or abandon us is something that must be faced with great courage.
If you don't live in the moment, if you don't risk feeling something for someone, you will never know what it means to touch the sky with your finger, smile constantly, make love, feel the passion. There is no guarantee that things will go well, whether they last or not, or that the other person will feel the same or that it is worth it.
What happens when you fall in love
When we fall in love, we perceive the world differently, the body changes and everything around us changes as well. There are reactions and signs that indicate that we are falling in love or that we have fallen in love, and they are the following:
Idealize the other person
Many times we see in the other person what we want to see, perhaps what we lack or what we want. Over the time, disillusionment can occur when the person we thought we saw does not really exist, he is different and, therefore, we don't feel the same for her.
It may also happen that we see that person in a much more rational way, exactly as he is, and that we like him; in this way the relationship will be more realistic.
Being afraid of being rejected
We are all afraid of being rejected, but if we don't try, we will never know what can happen. Reciprocity in love is complicated, because many factors influence, sometimes it is not the right time, sometimes it is not the right person, sometimes one runs away only out of fear.
Fear is the reflection of our protective instinct, it is normal for it to accompany us, but it must have limits, we must establish how far it can go, to prevent it from paralyzing us.
The body reacts
Our behavior towards someone we like makes us stand out. We keep looking at that person, how he moves, how he talks, how he dresses. We feel invaded by strong emotions every time we see that person, our heart beats fast, we feel clumsy, we blush.
Close your eyes and let yourself be carried away by love ...
Being carried away by feelings is an extraordinary feeling. It is important to live in the present, not to think about the future, which is always uncertain, but to enjoy the here and now. Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi developed the concept of “flow”, which symbolizes a state in which we focus on activities that we are developing and enjoying.
For this, we must fully concentrate on the activity we are carrying out, as if we were losing the notions of time and space. Enjoy the present, what you feel in this moment, don't worry about how you will feel tomorrow, because you don't know it and thinking about uncertainty prevents you from enjoying that wonderful moment.
However, never forget that love does not imply suffering, it is not necessary to suffer for love. Love is made to be enjoyed, to be lived, to be happy and content, to have fun and to know different sensations. Do you dare to fall in love?