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    Is choosing a partner a conscious process?

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    Choosing the ideal partner is not
    a simple thing, too often we set ourselves the minimum indispensable requirements
    that the other must have in order to enter our life. This is us
    conveys a certain feeling of security and control, something of which
    we need to start a new romantic relationship. However, how much
    Are we flexible with respect to the requirements we trace? I really am
    indispensable for the relationship to work or are only part of a strategy
    to make us feel safer and more confident?

    A curious study made by
    psychologists of the University of Chicago, confirms to us that we still keep different
    bias at the decision-making level, many of which are not even conscious. AND
    la choice of partner does not do
    exception! In carrying out this study
    101 volunteers were asked to imagine themselves and a partner
    imaginary while they carry out a question contest. To each participant
    Two profiles of two potential partners were offered in which they were included:
    a photo, the level of education and the intellectual coefficient obtained from starting
    from a previously asked question course. The interesting side was in the
    the fact that in one photo a thin person was shown and in the other one in
    overweight. Each participant had a
    very simple task: choose who would be the partner / companion
    ideal with which to ask questions together. Once the
    selection, 23 pairs of profiles were presented to each participant
    which other physical or personality attributes varied, all with the aim
    to accurately analyze which peculiarities had the greatest impact
    in choosing a partner. If we look at it from the point
    from a logical point of view it would be normal to think that the participants chose people
    with the higher intellectual coefficient, since this would help them to
    win the question contest. In fact, to make sure each participant
    understood the importance of the IQ to the task
    they would have to face, the researchers asked the participants themselves
    what would have been the essential requirements in choosing a partner / companion
    with which they would have faced the competition. As you can imagine,
    all mentioned intelligence as a fundamental factor while reporting
    weight as an irrelevant aspect. However, it is well known that what
    we say and assume on a conscious level does not always correspond to what
    we will go to do. Thus, 73% of the participants were willing to sacrifice one
    average of 12 points of IQ by choosing a lean partner e
    attractive. To give a further round of
    lives to the experiment, the researchers asked each person to justify
    his choice. The curious thing is that none of the participants
    he recognized that weight was a determining factor in his decision. In
    this way, the researchers conclude that on many occasions we develop one
    sort of "selective ignorance", a mechanism by which we deny ourselves a
    recognize our prejudices. Probably on a conscious level
    we would never recognize that we have a racial or weight-related bias;
    although, of course, the conditions under which an experiment is organized
    psychological differ substantially from real life. Either way, it arises
    always a question: if we let ourselves be influenced by these prejudices at the level
    unconscious when choosing a partner for a simple contest a
    questions, how many prejudices we are not aware of will determine the
    our choice of partner in real life?
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