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    How to win back the trust of your partner or ex: 5 tips

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    How to win back the trust of the partner?

    For a relationship between two people to work, there must be a strong and stable relationship of trust. And we're not just talking about love relationships, but also about family and friends relationships.

    If you can't trust each other it becomes difficult to have a relationship, and that goes to demolish the relationship itself. The speech, then, becomes complicated when it comes to love relationships, because here very strong feelings come into play.



    And unfortunately, no matter how much you are in love at times, you can risk it make some mistakes that goes to hurt and disappoint the loved one. Here, in this case, it is necessary to intervene in order to be able to regain the trust of the partner and ensure that things can, little by little, return to being as before.

    If you have no idea where to start to get your partner to trust you again, you've come to the right place. Here, in fact, you will find excellent ideas and advice that will help you to set your own path of reconquest.

    How to win back your partner's trust

    Before starting to see what you will have to do in practice to be able to regain the trust of your loved one I want to tell you that it is a fairly uphill journey and that takes time.

    I make this premise to you both to avoid that you can press too hard on the accelerator, risking to compromise the entire path, both to prevent you from being able to lose heart not seeing improvements in the short term.



    So have patience, act with love, let time heal your partner's wounds and put into practice the advice I explain below:

    1. Take your responsibilities

    The first thing you need to do if you really want to win back your partner's trust is to be honesty about what happened. Do not tell things "in bites and bites", because if he were to discover other things it would become really difficult to be able to restore the relationship of trust between you.

    Therefore, be prepared to tell him the whole truth. At the same time, however, it is important that you take responsibility for what happened, avoiding to find justifications (which happens very often).

    Don't hide behind phrases like "I did it because it was a difficult time, we didn't get along and I was under pressure at work". So you give the impression of who is looking for a alibi, and that's not constructive if you're trying to regain his trust.

    2. Apologize effectively

    This is something that might seem obvious to you, but I want to talk about it because in most cases, when you make a mistake, you tend to focus on the quantity of excuses rather than on the "quality".

    If you have hurt your partner, the moment you apologize he must feel and feel that you are truly bitter about what you did and happened. In addition, he must understand that you are going through a process of improvement, so as to avoid making the same mistake again in the future (whether it is a betrayal or a lack of respect towards him).



    Explain to him what it is that is leading you to apologize and where your repentance comes from. This way your partner will understand that your apologies are genuine, and not just the result of a desire to keep your relationship going on the same terms as before.

    3. Let him let off steam

    When you have the intention of regaining the trust of your loved one, it is sometimes necessary to suffer his outbursts. If you have let him down, betrayed or hurt him, he may sometimes need to "throw out" his feelings and thoughts by talking about what happened.

    This, for you who are on the other side, is not easy to deal with, but it is important for him, to ensure that he can enter the "healing" process. Therefore, if you see that he needs to talk about it or let off steam, do not deny him the dialogue by trying to "silence him".

    He also has need to feel understood in his sensations and feelings, which are unfortunately hurt at the moment. Therefore, do not make the mistake of belittling his outbursts by focusing the dialogue on your forgiveness, because this attitude it will lead him to move away from you.

    4. Give him time and space

    Another thing that you will have to commit to do to regain the trust of your husband, or at least of your man, is to do not rush. We are talking about a path that requires patience and, above all, the ability to leave the right spaces for the loved one.



    It is important for him to feel that you on the other side are actively trying to regain his trust, but not according to your timing or your needs. It may take weeks or even months for him to trust you again, and you on the other hand need to be aware and ready to let time take its course.

    Don't keep apologizing to him or telling him how important it is to you that things go back to the way they were, because that's your need. Instead, he needs to think about the path he will have to tackle for be able to prepare to give you back his trust.

    5. Be transparent with him

    The fifth and final piece of advice I would like to give you to rebuild trust and heal the couple relationship is to be as transparent as possible with your partner. The goal, of course, is to prove that you have nothing to hide and that you put yourself in the position of being able to make him feel comfortable.

    In "normality" it is right to expect to have your own spaces and privacy, but if you are trying to regain the trust of your partner you will have to put yourself in the perspective of sacrifice yourself for a short period of time.

    Maybe by removing the lock from your smartphone, answering the phone in front of him, making you always available and, sometimes, sending him photos of the people you are spending time with (friends, colleagues, etc.).

    I know it might seem frustrating to you, but it's not a condition that will have to last indefinitely. We are talking about a few weeks or at most a few months, but this is a great way to show that you are crystal clear, transparent and that your intent is to make him feel comfortable.

    Regaining the trust of an ex: how to proceed

    Until now we have only ever talked about regaining the trust of the partner. However, it is possible that you find yourself in the circumstance of having to heal the relationship of trust with your ex.

    In this case, I'm happy to tell you that you can still rely on the first four tips you read above. As for the fifth, however, if you are no longer together, it is more difficult to be able to demonstrate your transparency.

    In any case, you can prove that you can be found on the phone and keep accesses on WhatsApp, so that he can see that you have nothing to hide. At the same time, however, since we're talking about an ex, the situation is a bit more complex.

    You will have a harder time managing dialogue, understanding when and if it is right to contact him, how to behave on social media and much more. In short, regaining the trust of an ex is not easy, but it becomes possible using the right tools.

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