Last update: January 22, 2017
The key word of emotional dictators is "me". These people need to know that they are in total control in any situation and, when they don't, they experience great frustration and intolerance.. On the other hand, it seems that there is no predisposition for the formation of the authoritarian personality, as it is not inherited, but develops from a series of social rules transmitted by the family and other social agents.
Since the characteristics of the personality are by definition stable and constant in different situations, authoritarian people will tend to adopt the same pattern of behavior with those under their influence. For example, those who are dominant with their employees are likely to be dominant with their partner, children or other people who are perceived as vulnerable.
Authoritarian people are easy to recognize because they say what they think without looking for the right words. It doesn't matter if they hurt others and justify themselves by extolling their sincerity, which is really nothing more than moral authority masquerading as honesty. In fact, they don't have much time for others, they are much more interested in their results.
Emotional dictators do not allow others to harshly punish any mistakes, considering themselves victims of an offense if they do not do what they want. Self-deception and self-justification are the main characteristics that maintain and forge these personalities.
Emotions in emotional dictators
The dictator is a despot, he gives orders and expects them to be carried out immediately. He assumes that his system is not only the best, but also the only one with internal consistency. He has a very strong personality and is concerned with controlling others, he is competitive in any area.
He loves compliments and banal chatter, especially if it concerns his qualities and his person. He is aggressive and biting when he turns against him and always tries to psychologically intimidate others. He understands that showing him his power is a form of control and warning.
With all these emotional "qualities", it is not strange that in the end the dictator ends up irritating the people he meets on his path, influencing them with his shouts, his anger and his arrogance. It is vital that these people boost their emotional intelligence. In this way, they will be able to improve their ability to feel, understand, control and change their emotional states and understand those of others.
Types of emotional dictators
Within the category of emotional dictators there are various types. Dictators who aim to destroy the self-esteem of others, raise doubts and demean others to feel superior. Others, however, resort to fear to intimidate and paralyze others to feel more powerful.
There are also dictators who, out of jealousy or envy, strategically manipulate others to unsuspected limits to strip them of their resources, criteria and emotional stability. They demand endless explanations and demand admissions of guilt and apologies. Emotional dictators need a scapegoat for their emotions of frustration, anger, or anger to make sense.
They are people who do not know how to empathize with others, because they cannot make an effort to understand others or put themselves in their shoes. They usually focus on their person and their needs. They have very strict expectations of others and use inflexible principles and norms that often arouse destructive criticism.
Identifying emotional dictators is important for our emotional well-being, because interacting with these kinds of people could cause us different social, family or sentimental problems. If they are people close to us, we could recommend psychotherapy to them to overcome the frustration, anger and anger that push them to act the way they behave.
