Last update: 04 September, 2020
Why don't we generally appreciate loneliness? Why do most people always prefer to be in company? Many avoid at all costs being alone, therefore, they look for all the solutions to be with other people. They are afraid of being alone, of being silent with themselves, and they badly need to be with someone so as not to face the burden of loneliness.
Instead, we can learn a lot from loneliness, it teaches us and leads us to overcome. Learning to be alone can take us further than any other company, you just need to know how to look at it.
The bitterest face of loneliness is that feeling that makes us feel unloved and appreciated. Imposed and unchosen loneliness is not one of the most pleasant circumstances we can experience, but it can help us grow a lot.
If you feel lonely, you don't always have to seek the company of other people. Sometimes looking for ways to enjoy this circumstance can help you.
Being alone and listening to a single voice, that of dialogue with ourselves
Loneliness is the engraver of our spirit. We can therefore use it as a tool to strengthen our personal growth. Being alone means listening only to your own voice, that inner dialogue that most of the time makes us feel uncomfortable and that we try to silence with noise and company. We do this from the moment we start to be conscious. What really scares us is not loneliness, but what we have to say to each other.
If you feel alone it is because you are badly accompanied. Do not forget that loneliness is the empire of consciousness.
Loneliness is to the spirit what diet is to the body. While it is true that it is as silent as light, it is also one of the most powerful agents. Being alone is intrinsic in the human being, it is essential for man. We all come into the world alone and leave it the same way.
Thus, in solitude we only find what we carry inside. The moments in which we manage to be alone are therefore the most propitious ones to get to know each other. Knowing how to listen to us is the best remedy for the fear of being alone.
You should find in solitude the warmth of a friend who offers you the company you need.
The first condition for initiating a healthy inner dialogue is to develop the ability to understand and value oneself. Listen, accept and acknowledge what we have to say opens the door for us to a welcoming place where we can feel protected.
“Loneliness is and always has been the central and inevitable experience of every man. The strongest man in the world is the one who stands alone most. "
-Tom Wolfe-
If you feel alone, remember that loneliness never leaves us
Loneliness never leaves us. This sarcastic phrase hides a truth that can get very uncomfortable. Everyone, at least once, we felt abandoned. We have been forced to embrace a painful and profound independence. The same independence that, when everything else leaves us, welcomes us into its refuge.
We will never meet anyone who keeps us as much company as loneliness. Because if we choose it freely, we can use it to manage and put in order what we think and feel.
We believe that being an adult means being independent and not needing anyone. Nonetheless, sometimes this quest for independence ends up hurting us. For this reason we all, at some point in our life, feel that we are dying of loneliness.
Thus, it is important to remember that when the moments in which we feel alone, helpless and abandoned are the ones when we most need to be alone with ourselves. These are the moments when we have to hug each other tightly until we feel that we are there with ourselves. It is undoubtedly one of the greatest irony of life.
“It is easy to live in accordance with the opinions of the world. It is also easy to live in agreement with ourselves in our solitude. But the great man is the one who among the people maintains with perfect serenity, independence from solitude. "
-Emerson-
