Cultivating emotional intelligence

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Robert Maurer

Cultivating emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence is a skill possessed by people capable of perceiving, understanding and controlling what they and others feel to take advantage of it.

Last update: 21 March, 2022

Training and leadership expert Dan Bobinski states in an article published in Management Issues that it is possible to learn and cultivate emotional intelligence on a par with any profession or school subject.

Research shows that the only (or biggest) difference between outstanding and mediocre leaders is their ability to use emotional intelligence.

In his view, it is possible not only to learn, but also know, enhance and control what happens to us to take advantage of it in various areas, like business, but also with partner, children, family, surrounding environment, etc.

What is emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence is a skill possessed by people capable of perceiving, understanding and controlling what they and others feel to take advantage of it. This does not mean that they are bad, but rather that they have a "plus" they take advantage of it.

Levels of emotional intelligence determine whether you are successful or not of a company, a happy marriage or divorce, an excellent education or adults who had no limits in childhood, etc.

Those who occupy the highest positions in the best companies in the world have, among other skills, a good control of their emotional intelligence (and knowledge of the emotional universe of their collaborators).

While some people are particularly gifted in terms of emotional intelligence, it is equally true that it is possible to cultivate it thanks to some strategies.

Strategies for cultivating emotional intelligence

When we think of different personalities, we must discard the "good" and the "bad" from our analysis. There are simply people who differ from each other.

We tend to associate the word "different" with "difficult", but this is not true. What is complicated is only complicated when you are not used to it, regardless of whether it is different or not.

Human beings have strengths and also weaknesses. In addition to this, it is good to remember that every virtue has an associated defect and vice versa. You have to choose which of the two extremes or opposite poles you want to work on and improve on.

Each personality style can add strength to a work group, family or couple, in short, any context that involves more than one person. You need to focus on what is done right and not on mistakes.

We keep in mind that "whoever focuses on strengths will become stronger and whoever pays attention to weaknesses will become weaker".

The constant effort to seek and find its merits in the other has its fruits. It's like harvesting after good planting planning. We always should try to get the most out of yourself and others.

Achieve success

If everyone is expected to hold the same position and perform the same activities, success will never be achieved. Each person is unique and unrepeatable in the world, which is why it is not worthwhile for two colleagues or friends to do the same task in unison, unless required.

First of all, you need to know what success and profit mean for others. Its definition is not always shared. This will make it easier to achieve group goals, without neglecting your own.

If we only work to achieve our personal goals and all of our efforts are above the team's mission or vision, fractures and weaknesses will emerge that will not maximize results.

Effectiveness is tied to doing the right thing. Efficiency, on the other hand, translates into rapid business development. Keep each variable in mind, as the best results are achieved when we take the time to do things right.

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