Nobody likes to have unpleasant sensations. However, unpleasant sensations are a part of life and in many cases they can even become indicators that we are on the right path.
In fact, when we grow up or explore new horizons we can experience emotions such as fear or discomfort. Often, our aversion to unpleasant sensations prompts us to take a step back, instead of embracing those disturbing emotions that are really just an expression of the change we are making.
1. Feeling lost and aimless. Sometimes to find ourselves we must first get lost. The feeling of feeling disoriented and aimless can be frightening and can even be mistaken for depression, but it could simply be an indicator that we urgently need to make a change in our life. Sometimes, as we mature, we begin to realize what we don't want, even if we don't yet know exactly what we want. This can make us feel lost, but we just have to consider the possible directions.
2. Experiencing very intense and seemingly irrational feelings. In some cases, random and seemingly irrational feelings can be a symptom of emotional instability, but that's not always the case. Sometimes, especially when you reconnect with yourself, you can experience very intense feelings, from deep peace and love to enormous anger or sadness. Those unexpected emotional shocks are just trying to warn you that you need to take on your emotions and give them more space in your life. In fact, they are often just trying to tell you to let them come into your consciousness and give them space.
3. Fear of leaving the comfort zone. Many times, when we are about to embark on something new, we are taken by an unmistakable feeling of fear and uncertainty. In reality, it is about the fear of stepping out of the comfort zone and it is not a negative emotion, it is just warning you that you are about to enter unknown terrain and you should be careful. That fear can make you retreat to take refuge in the known, but remember that if you never leave your comfort zone, you won't be able to test your skills and discover new things.
4. Not sure who we are. We all have times when we become insecure, particularly during times of change or difficulty. In reality, having doubts about our identity is not a problem of self-esteem or self-confidence but only an indication that we are evolving as people and we need to question the things we used to take for granted. That is, the person you know is changing and many of his past beliefs are being replaced, so it is normal for you to have doubts and insecurities about your values, goals and beliefs. You can take advantage of that insecurity to look within and find out what you want now.
5. Experience an intense desire to be alone. When we isolate ourselves from others, we often do so thinking we are depressed. But that's not always the case. When there are too many people around you and you switch between commitments, it's easy to get lost in that social hustle and bustle. Therefore, sometimes the desire to be alone implies the need to enter a period of self-reflection to recalibrate the mind. It is not something negative, on the contrary, it will allow you to look inside yourself and re-evaluate what you are doing.
6. Realize that we are solely responsible for our life and our happiness. As you advance in self-knowledge, you realize that you are solely responsible for your life and happiness. Initially, this type of responsibility is often overwhelming. You can feel the weight of the pressure on your shoulders. As Erich Fromm said, it is the fear of freedom and of taking responsibility for one's actions. However, embracing this feeling as a symbol of growth is the first step towards your future successes.