5 dangers of emotional comfort

5 dangers of emotional comfort

5 dangers of emotional comfort

Last update: Augusts 28, 2015

Living looking only for safety and comfort is like surrounding yourself with walls and being dead. JM Fericgla

Comfort is always dangerous. This is because it does not allow us to see beyond simple things, beyond the comfort zone in which we find ourselves, beyond what we already know, beyond conformity. So then we fall into the trap that the illusion of well-being in which we believe we live has set us.



1. The couple's sofa

Comfort and emotional conformity in the context of love are the greatest enemies of a couple. In relationships we often try to create a sort of bubble of emotional stability that allows us to settle down and look at life as if we have already come half the way.

We have next to us a person we love and who loves us. Eventually, even if things go wrong, there will always be a place to take refuge. However, it happens to get confusing: what that bubble gives us is not a sofa to lie on because everything is fine, but a breath of fresh air.. When we are engaged in a relationship, not necessarily for a long time, we tend to put aside our goals and aspirations.

We stop being the people we used to be, we change, and this only deteriorates us, just as it also deteriorates our relationship as a couple. We physically and emotionally abandon ourselves to a sort of emotional delusion that makes us think, unconsciously, things like: "well, I'll think about myself later".

We think: “He loves me the same way”. And U.S? If suddenly our partner disappeared from our life, would we feel good about ourselves? Would we really love each other as before or would we understand that we have neglected our person? The real question is, do we take care of ourselves every day?



2. Avoid negative emotions

Let's not tell stories, negative emotions have their own why in life. Sadness, anger, restlessness, worry, pain, disappointment, remorse, etc.. All these emotions, without exception, have something to tell us.

We usually escape negative emotions, we go in the opposite direction and we don't allow them to express themselves, to explain themselves. As a result, these can turn into terrible monsters such as depression, anger, guilt, anxiety, etc.

Running away is an act of cowardice because listening to what emotions have to tell us is something "uncomfortable", so we flee. We need to let emotions flow, not those that interfere with the achievement of our goals, but those that enhance them.

3. The lack of critical thinking

Everyone thinks, it is something that cannot be avoided. However, our thinking can be biased, distorted, prejudiced, etc.. We tend to choose what suits us best without bothering us too much, without exceeding limits. However, there comes a time in life when we all succumb, in one way or another, and indulge in prejudice..

In this way, we "swallow" everything that the media, our friends, family or acquaintances tell us. We adapt to the social norm of not "rebelling" and stop thinking for ourselves.

We fall into a kind of intellectual laziness and lack of mental elasticity, thus compromising reason, honesty, open-mindedness that we could use if we made an effort to question and question everything we are told..

4. Conformism

Letting others decide for us is another great danger of emotional comfort. As we have already anticipated, that everyone decides for himself and thinks with his head is the most normal thing, but the "rebellion" is not well seen.



However, since we don't want to deal with the discomfort of having to fight for our interests or principles, we end up letting others think we will adapt.. This compromises our decision making regarding the present and the future, as well as our physical and emotional freedom.

5. Emotional neglect

Keeping emotional wounds from healing is another danger posed by emotional security. It is quite common to believe that you have left the past in the past even when it is still hurting us, avoiding overcoming it. This affects our present and our future as we allow pain to build up and damage us day after day.


Therefore, avoiding taking care and satisfying our emotional needs has no other consequence than that of making the malaise explode.. This feeling has the same effect on our soul as a pair of shoes that are too small.

However, life is made of time and it is the one thing we cannot recover. However much we try to do it, however much we try to escape, it is impossible to never have problems in the 365 days that make up a year.

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